20 week scan in the morning, all alone!

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This is the first disadvantage I've found of being pregnant and single but I am feeling slightly sad about going to the scan on my own. I don't think there is anything wrong and I am being kicked hard as I type but it just feels sad to not have someone going with me.

Daft I know because I made the decision to do this but I guess I'm allowed to have one moment of sadness about being on my own.

You are allowed to feel sad, that's perfectly understandable.

I had my 20 week scan alone and in tears because my partner and I had a humdinger of a row on the way to the hospital

oh no that's not good, sorry that happened to you.

I guess I have the advantage that I've decided to do it this way so I always knew it was going to happen.

Don't worry it was years ago. It just proves that even with a partner you can feel alone and unsupported.

It's not daft at all. Even if you decided to have the baby on your own, there are times you want to share reactions or moments with others. It'll be beautiful seeing your little one today tho - enjoy! xx

I had a sexing scan on Sunday and found out am having a girl i was so happy but that was clouded by sadness i went to bed and cried for the day because i felt i should of had someone there the next day i got up and went shopping got some cute pink things that helped me feel better :) we will get through x

well I managed not to cry, so far anyway, and it was lovely to see the baby again but they couldn't get a proper image of the connections of the heart so I have to go back in two weeks for a re-scan. I really would prefer not to be on my own for that one just in case there's a problem but I'm not sure I have someone to ask who would be able to come really so I guess I just need to treat it as a bonus chance to see the baby

congrats on your little girl kelly21

Hi. How did your scan go?

Many years ago i had 2 dc on my own...long story!

There are times whilst your pregnant you will feel lonely but as I've also had dc whilst with a partner & very often we don't get the support we need or expect from our partners.

Hope everything went well today.

Sorry i didn't see your post before i posted...

Try not to worry too much. You've already got a good & positive way of dealing with needing an extra scan.

When you say your not sure about asking someone to attend the scan, is that because your not near family or friends?

What about the birth and after? Do you have anyone in mind?

Maybe a doula? or speak to your midwife about local groups for pregnant ladies. Something to help with the isolation that can occur during pregnancy regardless of circumstances!

Best of luck with everything...

Hi Shellywelly

I live about 100 miles away from my family so I have to choose carefully when I ask them to come up to help me out and I don't think the extra scan is a good enough reason although that doesn't mean that someone won't offer to come because they do that sometimes

I had my first 2 children while with my ex partner who was seriously abusive and made it all very hard work so most of the time I'm finding this pregnancy far easier than the other two its just now and again when I'm going to have to say 'No there's no one with me' to some health professional I get a slight wobble!

My parents are coming for the birth which all being well will be at home like DD2 was which makes it easier for the kids and I have a few friends in this area and a number of others around the country that I can call up and chat to at different times of the day so I'm hoping I'll be ok. I think the routine of school for the older one will also help me with not getting stuck in the house all the time as well

I guess only time will tell but hopefully it'll all be ok