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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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39+5 and can't quite believe I'm going to have a baby!

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HelgatheHairy · 02/08/2013 21:52

So at this point it should have sunk in surely! I was much more "sure" a few weeks/months ago when we were buying travel systems and cots but in the last 2 weeks especially I just can't imagine it!!

Anyone else??

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Snuppeline · 02/08/2013 21:55

Your not alone! I'm 37 weeks today and refuse to decide on a name as I'm not quite sure I'm actually - like for real - having a baby! Strange as with my first I had name sorted from 20 weeks and also knew that I was having an actual child. Now it is surreal

Kelly1814 · 03/08/2013 07:59

Oh god, me too. 30+4. Work pressuring me to talk about going back, everyone has a million questions, none of which I want to answer as surely there isn't a baby in there, it's just hula hoops!!!!

Am an only child who has never even held a baby before! Help!!!!!!

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HelgatheHairy · 03/08/2013 10:53

Glad to know its not just me.

kelly me too!!! Only child with no real experience of babies! So no practical help but I'm here to chat! DH and I opened a nappy the last night to have a look! (Is it really pathetic to admit we put it on a teddy??)

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afrikat · 03/08/2013 11:02

I'm glad I am not the only one! 33 + 1 and I actually can't believe a baby is going to be in this house next month. I will be practicing both nappies and swaddling on a teddy in the next few weeks!

RatherUninspired · 03/08/2013 11:11

Haha, I have also put a nappy on a teddy (and swaddled it!) and wondered the same thing! I am not an only child but the youngest in my family and not a close family so even though my older sister had kids I never really saw them in that way when they were babies, certainly never helped change their nappy!

I am due any day now (!!!!) and still don't really liking talking about/believing I am actually having a baby. These 9 months have been the longest 9 months of my life - I need wine and my body back!

I will be so happy (I hope) when this pregnancy is over but still can't believe there will actually be a baby at the end of it!

Ditsy79 · 03/08/2013 12:05

I am 39+4, and in hospital as we speak for induction (due to gestational diabetes). Been here since Wed, and still nothing has happened. Hopefully getting waters broken today.
Still kind of not sunk in that the baby will be here v soon.
Also have no experience with babies, have not got a clue! The teddy bear has been swaddled, had a nappy put on, and dressed in a baby-gro!

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HelgatheHairy · 03/08/2013 12:51

Just read some of the replies out to DH and he's now gone to get a baby-gro to put on the teddy!

Ditsy good luck!! Hopefully things will start happening soon for you.

Rather I hear you with the wine! And I'd quite like to be able to see what I'm doing when I shave my legs!

I'm lucky in that I've had a really easy pregnancy but it has meant when I started getting a big bump and breathless in the last month it has come as a bit of a surprise!

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Snuppeline · 03/08/2013 13:02

To those of you who haven't held a baby much (or at all) I applaud your teddy testing. Think about how to hold the baby too, supporting the babys neck and head at all times. The baby is pretty floppy and putting on clothes when they are tiny is very scary. In fact, the first few of everything (bathing, changing nappy, putting on clothes, leaving to sleep on their own) is panic inducing.

I also recommend unwrapping the electronic gadgets you may have bought such as baby monitor, breast pump etc to have a practice/look at those too so that you don't have to figure out how they work with a floppy tiny baby in arms!

Llareggub · 03/08/2013 13:04

I have a 6 and 4 year old and I often still can't believe that they are mine. I can't even keep plants alive and I've made it.

HenriettaPye · 03/08/2013 13:13

I totally felt like that! Then when I had my beautiful son and was ready to go home from the hospital I remember saying to my DH 'so this is it, they r actually just going to let us take him?' And DH was like errrr...yes he IS ours, and I just couldn't get my head around the fact that they were just letting us go with this precious little baby.

He's now 3 and has a 1 yo sister now and I still look at them at times and think wow these are actually mine, I'm actually a mum!!

Kelly1814 · 03/08/2013 13:21

Helga I have just guffawed as we did the same thing with a nappy! We haven't put one on a teddy but think this is an excellent idea, will be doing this later.

My friend did suggest trying on the cat was more accurate as they are wriggly little buggers like babies, unlike a teddy!

Good point re unpacking some of the technical stuff.

Gingerandlemon · 03/08/2013 13:59

Me too! Me too! It comes in waves though, sometimes I feel ok and other times I'm in a blind panic. I found antenatal classes helped normalise things a bit though.

Oh and our cat has tried both the sling and baby Bjorn as we were given both. She loves a bit of skin to skin. Or fur to tshirt more accurately. Unfortunately she also likes to sleep in the pram which requires some serious hoovering to get all the hair out.

I wonder if we could try the nappy/ babygro approach...

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HelgatheHairy · 03/08/2013 14:12

There is no way I could try the cat in a sling - I'd be scratched to bits, he's a grumpy bugger. The thought of putting a nappy on him.... Luckily he's avoided the pram and seems happy sleeping under the cot as it means the dog can't get to him!

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RugBugs · 03/08/2013 15:51

Gingerandlemon I've found that next first size fits one if my cats very nicely!

10 days off dd and I'm starting to get excited about having a baby again, but mostly about how wonderful it's going to be being fully mobile again.

Gingerandlemon · 04/08/2013 10:07

Amazing! I'll have to try it :). Although she accidentally got locked in the shed for an hour yesterday so I might wait a day or two before I subject her to that!

riskit4abiskit · 04/08/2013 16:06

oooh good idea about the teddy - must try this!

SupermansBigRedPants · 04/08/2013 16:39

I'm going in this time next week to get started off - baby is humongous - and I keep forgetting she's in me

half the living room is toys - swing, bouncer, playmat, donut - plus her nappies are in the table beside ds' s, muslins and bibs are in the table drawer nearest my seat, her cot is right in my bedroom door, her clothes are in my part of the wardrobes plus I'm sleeping all the time, still eating what she 'lets' me and throwing up a few times a week. God only knows how I keep managing to blank her out!!

elQuintoConyo · 04/08/2013 17:20

At around the same time, 39wks, we thought 'crap, we haven't unpacked the pram!' Got it out of its box, put it together, pushed teddy bear round our tiny flat, crashed into a few things!
DH's sister had a DD 3 months before our DS arruved, so we used that time to cram in how to hold a newborn and what they did: fuck all eat, sleep, poo, vomit, cry! Didn't change a nappy, but I think I did watch. That was all.

Congratulations all those who are about to have babies

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HelgatheHairy · 04/08/2013 17:25

Due today and there's no way I could forget she's there. I feel huge, tired and uncomfortable. It's more I can't imagine her being out, lying in her cot or feeding her. And I don't WANT to think about the transition from her being in to her being out!

I push the pram around a bit too, the dog runs away and I crash into door frames.

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SupermansBigRedPants · 04/08/2013 19:12

I like imagining her being here, it's quieter than the reality will be I'm used to ds' s pram but the double buggy omg I batter our hallway with it and it's not a small one either I may put ds and one of his big teddys in and push him up and down the street

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