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Are we allowed to feel sorry for ourselves??

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Writerwannabe83 · 02/08/2013 20:23

I don't know if this is allowed as I know how lucky I am to be pregnant but God do I feel like I need a light hearted moan!! Smile

I ache all over, it is a complete effort to move my arms and legs and I have no motivation to do anything. My body feels drained of all energy and strength and I am exhausted. As soon as I got home from work I went straight to bed and that's where I still am. It doesn't help that I'm struggling to sleep because of how much my legs ache Smile

My chest hurts, my nipples and areolas look very strange and I don't feel like my breasts are my own anymore. My bra's don't fit and nor do my trousers. Even my knickers feel tight! Smile

My nose is constantly running and I'm still having wee, after wee, after wee. The emotional outbursts have also started, complete with irrational tears and me causing stupid arguments with the husband Thankfully he understands Smile

The nausea started a few days ago and I have the metallic taste in my mouth pretty much permanently and most food I eat is now a struggle to get down. I make myself do it for the sake of baby Bee-Bee.

I just generally feel crappy and grumpy.

I not even 6 weeks pregnant yet!!! Grin

Anybody else feeling a bit sorry for themselves??

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Bumblebee78 · 02/08/2013 20:32

The best is yet to come! I felt crap for the first 15 weeks but then felt better when the sickness went. I think the first trimester is hardest as your hprmones are going wild, and you are so worried about baby being ok, or even think you might be imagining you are pregnant as you havent had your scan. I was a mess with my first, i ended up crying in m and s cos i dropped some egg custards! Damn hormones!

Others may tell you how lucky you are to be pregnant and how rude to feel like you do cos of the miracle in your tummy! For me, i agree with you
, you are allowed to feel however you want when pregnant,normal rules dont apply! Even if that is that you feel crappy and that you feel a bit sorry for yourself!

Hope you feel better soon

chickpea24 · 02/08/2013 20:42

We are absolutely allowed!! This is the third time around for me and I can't believe I thought it would be a good idea. I am really not very good at being pregnant!!

I'm 5 weeks in, hormonal, tired, hate having to keep it a secret (why do we do that???) and dreading the next 8 months. Although I do love the bit at the end when you get the first cuddles :-) and all the years that follow!!

I really don't like this bit, but it's absolutely worth it.

blondebaby111 · 02/08/2013 20:52

You are allowed!! It took me a long time to get pregnant and I felt guilty for moaning about how rough I felt. I didn't have sickness luckily but just like you the tiredness was very hard. I found between 6-8 weeks the hardest then slowly but surely it does get better.

Then the hormones, omg the hormones!! I nearly gave dp a black eye as we were having a little argument and I was holding a towel and something he said I got annoyed with so I swung it round his face and caught his eye...so out of character for me lol!! But now 17 weeks and I can honestly say I'm not hormonal one little bit, I feel so chilled out its lovely.

You will get thru it, just don't fight the tiredness, if u need to sleep more then do it!!

Congratulations btw xx

pizzaqueen · 02/08/2013 20:53

you are allowed to have a good moan, go ahead and vent! pregnancy can be draining and you can feel pretty awful at times.

Although maybe be aware of who you moan around in rl (mumsnet is fine! ). I had a miscarriage late in June and since returning to work all I have heard is my heavily pregnant boss moan about how hot and bothered and uncomfortable she is. Doesn't she get I'd give anything to feel like that right now? and it can be upsetting for people woth fertility problems etc to hear pg ladies complaining when they'd happily switch places.

I hope you feel better soon.

AnythingNotEverything · 02/08/2013 20:55

I'm 29 weeks now with DC2, and think that first trimester is the hardest. So much change but no one knows!

Once you get bigger you get sympathy and tea and cake.

Congratulations!

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Writerwannabe83 · 02/08/2013 21:00

Thanks guys - I have just put my Wedding DVD on in an effort to cheer myself up. We only got married 4 months ago and I have easily watched it about 15 times since, it never fails to make me feel happy and usually cry Smile

I gave a speech at my wedding and I spoke about how I couldn't wait for us to have a family of our own because what a wonderful father my hubby would make - and now here we are Smile

I will most probably cry when that bit comes on Smile

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anniferer · 02/08/2013 21:06

I'm with you. If you want to feel miserable then thats fine. Right now I've just finished my worst bout of morning sickness yet, I ache all over and it is too bloody hot even though it is pouring with rain. And I reserve the right to moan and complain jntol I feel a bit better. I also reserve the right to blame DH for how I feel becaise it was his idea to have another. Hopefully eithin a gew weeks we'll all feel much better.
Keep going and it will be worth it in the end. To the point where you forget all the rubbish you went through

gillybeandramaqueen · 02/08/2013 22:46

I am almost 33 weeks with dc1 and I can honestly say that for me the first 15 weeks were the worst... sheer HELL. After that it gets so much better. It's getting harder again now I'm further on... but it's all pretty bearable and manageable in comparison with those first months!!!

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Writerwannabe83 · 03/08/2013 10:03

I'm feeling shattered tis morning - I just can't get a good nights sleep.

My nipples are alternating between being so, so itchy (to the point I want to scratch them off) to then being super sensitive to then being painful. For as long as I can remember I have slept on my front, it is the only way I can sleep, but of course that is now impossible!! I am tossing and turning all night and the lack of sleep is catching up on me.

The restless legs is the most annoying though - did anyone else suffer that in early pregnancy??

I felt so nauseous when I woke up this morning but I forced myself to eat breakfast. I have even changed from having my favourite cereals coco pops to having some healthy, bran crap in order to give BeeBee something more nutritional.

I feel like all I am is an incubator Grin

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posybunchof · 03/08/2013 10:15

You are def allowed to moan. Pregnancy is crap! (but worth it). The first bit is kind of the worst bit as well, imo.

Eat your way through the nausea if you can! xx

Xenadog · 03/08/2013 17:32

This is my first pregnancy and it is making me feel ill!

I'm 20+5 and even now my boobs are sore if I lie on my front, I feel teary all of the time and whilst I am not as tired as I was during the first 15 weeks I am still sleepy during the day and like a nap or two.

Add to this odd stomach pains which I assume are ligaments and "stuff" moving to accommodate the baby and the sleeplessness during the night (regardless of whether I nap in the daytime or not) and you have a recipe for being blooming miserable.

Oh forgot to add the breathlessness too which means walking at a reasonable pace is just impossible and the indigestion which has now come back along with constipation! AAGGGHHH!!!!

Seriously since becoming pregnant I look at women with children as utter heroes!

I say moan away - get it off your chest and just accept that this is the price we pay for a baby.

Oh and cocopops were the only thing I could eat for breakfast at the start so don't worry if that's what you fancy. Just make sure you are taking the correct vitamins too. xxxx

Beccadugs · 03/08/2013 17:42

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Beccadugs · 03/08/2013 17:44

I don't care whether we're allowed to moan or not! I am moaning for England as I feel dreadful. I feel like I've lost myself... I know it will be brilliant t the end, but I never dreamed it would have such a huge impact!!

FoofFighter · 03/08/2013 17:46

Get yourself some magnesium supplements for the restless legs, really works.

georgie22 · 03/08/2013 17:49

I'm 35 weeks with dc2 and actually found the first trimester easier this time than I did first time round. Of course I was worried about the new baby and scans etc. but had less time to focus on it all. I feel like I've coped much better this time... that is until the heatwave conditions of the past few weeks. My bump is so high that I can't breathe and I'm having loads of uncomfortable Braxton Hicks! I feel constantly hot and sweaty and the house is a tip, plus I have a full on 2.9 year old to cope with! Arghhhhhh!

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/08/2013 12:55

That doesn't sound like much fun Georgie Smile

I woke up feeling quite well today but within an hour of being up and about the nausea and exhaustion hit again. I haven't actually been sick but over the last 3 days my nausea has slowly been getting worse. I'm currently lying in bed with a packet of digestive biscuits. I read somewhere that sickness worsens if your stomach is empty so I'm trying my hardest to get something in there. The thought of having to eat a full meal just turns my stomach...

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marzipanned · 04/08/2013 13:13

Yes you can moan! I had fertility treatment and took about 18months to conceive - and I've been bloody miserable ever since it happened Blush

So glad there are several people on here talking about 15 weeks as the time things start getting better - I'm coming up to 14 weeks and am definitely better than the height of dreadfulness at weeks 8-12 but am DEFINITELY not in the glorious energetic non-nauseous second trimester state that my pregnancy book suggests!

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/08/2013 13:41

Congratulations on your pregnancy Marzipanned I love hearing success stories from fertility treatment.

One of my dad's friends had to have IVF and from 3 rounds she got a little boy on her First and a little girl on her Third. She had miscarried on her second round. I think it is amazing what fertility treatment can do and the happiness and joy it can bring to families.

One of the best advancements in science I'd say Smile x

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 04/08/2013 13:47

Me too! 8+2 today. I have wanted another dc for a decade or so, then MC in feb. Since then I have been desperate. Now its finally happened, there is no JOY! I worry 24/7. I feel so rough I have gone off my food, and I am shattered constantly. DP thinks I shouldn't moan, and my so called best friend accused me of spending the next 9 months sitting on my arse, when I broke the news! I feel crap and nobody cares but MNers!

marzipanned · 04/08/2013 13:47

Thank you! :)

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/08/2013 13:59

Oh saggy I care Smile

I can't believe that two weeks ago I got my BFP and was so, so excited, yet here I am now, feeling like crap and dreading the next 8 months. Everyone at works keeps telling me the first trimester is the hardest but it doesn't help. I have a new found respect for all women who have had a baby - I suddenly feel very sorry for all my friends who have had them and had to keep quiet until the 12 week scan about how shit they felt. They must have been very good at putting a fake smile on their face Grin.

My plan is to try and avoid everyone!! Mind you, yesterday morning my father in law popped round and invited me over (as various family members are visiting) and I really, really didn't feel up to it.....but off I went. I think I managed to stay for about 30 minutes but it was hard! I probably came across as rude for leaving so early but I didn't have the energy to stand up, let alone make conversation Grin

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