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1st baby Due Aug-Visitor panick/stress

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abby81 · 31/07/2013 11:29

I am 37+5 and cant wait! Kitchen is spanking- cupboards sorted etc however I cannot sleep at night because I keep worrying about having loads of visitors once babe is born. I dont know how I'm going to feel and have been trying to tell the fam that I may want them to stay away for a few days. They all live at least 5 hours away so they want warning and notice about when they can come. I have visions of them all packing the car and heading on the road as soon as dh gives them the 'in labour' msg! I'm sure it will be fine but I want dh and I to get to know our little boy/ girl before we have to make tea for others. Which is another panick, am I being too negative? I'm sure they will all want to help etc but I can't help worrying! Aaaaagh, brain scramble!

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Bunnylion · 31/07/2013 11:47

The first couple of weeks are time that you'll never get back so whatever you do, don't spend them in the kitchen making tea for others while everyone plays pass the parcel with your baby!

Either limit visitors to one or two afternoons, everyone coming over together if possible. Or if not then can you go to them instead so you can leave when you want to? Just make it clear that you would like a few weeks to get to know your baby, no reasonable person would think badly of you for that.

So don't feel selfish. This short time is so previous to you and DP, it's one of the few times in your life that you should put your foot down and do what you want.

Bunnylion · 31/07/2013 11:49

"precious" not "previous", damn auto correct iPhone!

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abby81 · 31/07/2013 11:56

Thanks! I kind of know thats the answer but still worry about upsetting people!

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AlmondFrangipani · 31/07/2013 12:34

Hi,

I am due next week and have had the same worries! My family are 2.5 hours away and my DH's are 1.5 hours away so I was panicking about having a house full of people to stay along with my Mum's 2 dogs! In the end I chatted to DH and we agreed a strategy that we both wanted. We have decided that any of our family members can come and visit us in hospital but we want to go home with the baby to an empty house and then we will let them know when we feel ready for them to come to stay. We have also had friends ask if they can come to hospital and we have said no. I hope that the majority of them will wait for us to say we are 'ready for visitors' and not just turn up!!

One of our friends who recently had a baby announced it on Facebook along with a note saying 'we are now heading home for some quiet time and to get to know one an other'. I thought this was a nice way to say 'we are not ready for visitors yet' and will probably do something similar!!

Good luck! xx

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abby81 · 31/07/2013 12:39

Thats a cool idea, I like it, hope it goes well for u. I think dh and I will have a chat tonight. I know he will be able to tell people to stay away without worrying about offending them!

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TarkaTheOtter · 31/07/2013 15:16

I you can get people to visit while you are in hospital. No one will expect you to play host, visiting hours are limited and your house stays nice and clean.

PastaBeeandCheese · 31/07/2013 17:09

I loved showing my DD off to anyone. Even the Ocado lady was forced to admire her. You may find you feel like me.....

Family are 4 hours away and came for the day. We stuck bread, cold meat, cheese and juices on the table and told them to help themselves. My Dad popped out for fish and chips before they left which we ate with champagne. It was ace.

All other visitors didn't stay too long. People tend to know not to overdo it when visiting a newborn.

I'm expecting #2 and worried no one will be interested this time round!!

DontAskIDontKnow · 31/07/2013 19:32

You don't have to send an 'in labour' message. If you're worried about them all turning up just wait till the baby is born.

PastaBeeandCheese · 31/07/2013 19:39

YY to no labour message. I would have hated that.

NatashaBee · 31/07/2013 19:41

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Yonididnaedaethat · 31/07/2013 22:10

Yes no messages lol, when I had my DS I was going home 6 hours later my family said 'text me when your home'......I didn't text them, instead I waited a few hours after i got home and said 'heading home' by at that point it was too late for visitors .

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abby81 · 31/07/2013 22:22

Thanks for all the messages, you are all right! I will leave it before sending a message and I am sure I won't be worried about it when ds or dd arrives. I'm just so excited now and also nervous! Panicking about all tiny things when in fact all that matters is baby is healthy and loved to bits x Night all x

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