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How do you know something is in there???

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 18:50

Hello everyone,

I'm just looking for reassurance really as I fear I'm driving myself mad. I got my BFP 8 days ago (first baby) and now I am constantly worrying that something has gone wrong and that I'm no longer pregnant.

I had lots of changes to how my breasts felt at the start of last week but all those symptoms have now disappeared. I had been having some achey cramps over the weekend but they have now stopped - I don't know if that's a good thing or not. I was also urinating all the time last week but now that has slowed back down to normal again.

I hear people say that they "Just feel pregnant" and it worries me as nothing about me feels pregnant I just feel like me, although a slightly tired one.

I just can't shake this bad feeling that something has gone wrong and I'm going to miscarry.

Is this paranoia and worry normal????

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Cakebaby2012 · 29/07/2013 18:55

This is exactly how I felt in both of my pregnancies. I booked private scans at 8 weeks for reassurance but both times. At 8 weeks they should be able to see a heartbeat and if so your chances of continuing with the pregnancy are fairly high. I would recommend.

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 19:01

How do you go about doing that? And how much are they??

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wickedwitchNE · 29/07/2013 19:04

I don't know what is normal but I was exactly the same and think many, many women are. 8 tests just to 'double check' and my MIL stepped in to stop me driving myself crazy! The first 12 weeks seem to last an absolute age, especially when you don't have any symptoms . I wanted to cry when the midwife said she wouldnt be doing any sort if test to confirm the pregnancy! I didn't 'feel' pregnant until after 13 weeks.

So all I will say, as annoying as it is, is try your hardest to relax and distract yourself from thinking the worst. Trust the test and your body, and be thankful for not throwing up several times a day. Cramps alone can be implantation or growing pains, very common.

Hope you do stop worrying and enjoy it, though I know that's easier said than done. Congratulations!

Chosenbyyou · 29/07/2013 19:10

Hi writer,

Think I am similar to you from reading the other thread, 5+5 with 1st dc.

So far I have had almost no symptoms, a little dizziness and very light pains all over my lower stomach. Most of the day I keep forgetting that I am supposed to be pg. the only reassurance is that I have had no bleeding or hard cramps so am just going to hope for the best until a scan at I presume 12 wks.

Doesn't help but just wanted you to know you are not alone cuz it's a strange time?!
X

LittlePeaPod · 29/07/2013 19:14

Hi Op,

We got private scans for reassurance within the first 12 weeks. Just search on google for private scans in your area. They vary in price depending on weere you live - anything between £80 and £150 were we are. I thought the money was well worth it.

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 19:18

Thanks Chosen and Wicked

I'm also trying to stay positive by telling myself there hasn't been any bleeding, but then my brain will instantly remind me of tales where women miscarried but didn't start bleeding until many weeks later

When I booked an appointment with my GP to let her know that I was pregnant, I was expecting her to confirm the pregnancy with a test but she didn't. She still took a urine sample to check for infections but said they don't perform pregnancy tests. I found it quite bizarre really

It is a strange time - you're right.
I know I should be excited, which I am, but at the same time I feel like I'm excited about something that isn't real.

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 19:19

Little Pea - that's a bargain!!! Thanks for the tip!!!

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Mayanbob · 29/07/2013 19:48

Hi OP. Just wanted to let you know that I am currently 36 weeks with my first.

I felt like you every day until my 12 week scan. I did the digital clearblue test that shows the week, and every week it went up (to 3+ weeks) which helped a bit as it showed I was 'more pregnant' if you will.

I didn't really feel anything, although I did have a super sensitive nose and at about 6-8 weeks my boobs were really tender. I also had horrible spotty skin. I didn't know whether something had happened or not, and when I had the scan... there were no tears of joy, just a massive case of 'oh ... so I haven't been deluding myself then'. I went and had a coffee afterwards and just looked at the pictures thinking... "that little baby is in my tummy" but it still didn't really seem real.

Since then I have worried less, but I still go a bit mad worry before scans- just because that's when you see. It wasn't until I started feeling the baby move (21 weeks for me due to anterior placenta) that it felt 'real'. Even when I couldn't climb the stairs because of SPD. And right now this little muggins is wriggling about reminding me it's there.

In any case... CONGRATULATIONS!! and good luck for if you're anything like me the craziest, most amazing 40 or so weeks of your life to date.

Kelly1814 · 29/07/2013 20:05

I felt ( and still do!) exactly the same. I am 30 weeks and didn't have any bump until 26 weeks. Forgot I was pregnant a lot of the time.

Congratulations on your pregnancy :)

bunchofposy · 29/07/2013 20:18

I think it's really normal to feel that way. You could arrange an early scan if it will put your mind at rest, though I found that made me obsess more! I just found lots of non-pregnancy related things to keep my mind of it and get me through those first months, like DVDs, books, food etc. (Now I am 38 weeks, look like a cow and can't stop reading about birth and labour!)

workingonitagain · 29/07/2013 20:23

i can tell you how I knew there was something there but it might sound strange as I can only compare it to a big bubble in my tummy that I sometimes could feel turn around as I was moving and that's from just after I missed my period but that feeling wasn't there all the time but I could feel it every now and then. I've been pregnant 4 times and the one time I had a mmc I knew that day that baby stopped growing (not because my symptoms disappeared as they never did) as my tummy just did not feel like there is this bubble in it...
good luck and if you are really worried have an early scan. I had one as early as 6 weeks and they could see the heartbeat (although it's rare for it to be seen that early)
good luck x

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 20:24

Thanks everyone for your reassurances - it makes me feel like I'm not going crazy. I think I'm more paranoid because my symptoms have disappeared and I have been having cramps. I thought pregnancy would be lovely but so far it has been nothing but worry and I'm only 8 days in

I was so desperate to see that 'Positive Line' but I had no idea just how crazy it would turn me!!

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 20:25

If they can't see the heartbeat at 6 weeks what can they see then that means the pregnancy is going ok??

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PetraBaelish · 29/07/2013 20:31

Hey Writer, you are completely normal!! If you tend to worry about things in general, this is a tough time...
Two things I did: first, I bought a load of cheap pregnancy tests on the Internet (like £3 for 20 or something). I seriously tested almost daily (or whenever I felt particularly worried) until about 7 weeks or so! Then, with my first pgcy, I bought a cheap Doppler on eBay. It was brand new but only a tenner, and I was able (with every pregnancy) to pick up the heartbeat from around 9w. Hugely reassuring!
Of course you can go down the private scan route, but that's a lot of money for just one scan (and the next day you might start to worry again).

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 20:36

When I got my BFP last weekend I did a Clear Blue Digital on the Sunday which said 2-3 weeks. I used the second test on the following Friday and it still said 2-3 weeks. I know that is most likely fine as there were only 6 days between doing the 2 tests but part of me felt worried because I still hadn't registered at 3 weeks Part of me is tempted to try again but now 8/9 days have passed since I did my first but I'm too scared to in case it still reads 2-3 weeks, or something worse :(

I just googled about private scans and there is a place that perform them only a 5 minute drive from where I live - sooo tempting!! They charge £50 for a reassurance scan from 7 weeks gestation onwards.

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LittlePeaPod · 29/07/2013 20:44

Op I had my first reassurance scan at 5+4 and we saw the heart beat. It was such a relief..

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 20:47

I'm only nervous because of the cramps I have been having since Saturday and the fact my breasts have suddenly returned to normal. The internet page says they only do the scans from 7 weeks but I could always enquire about earlier ones....

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workingonitagain · 29/07/2013 21:22

I think at 6 weeks it would very difficult for any sonographer to tell you that pregnancy is going as it should as you know sometimes they can see heartbeat and sometimes they can't see anything in the sac yet it doesn't mean there is something wrong as a lot of the times then from one day to the other it appears with a heartbeat... I had a mmc in dec where everything developed sooo late that at 6 weeks they couldn't even see the line of my womb thickened so I knew that things weren't going well and that's the only reason I went for a 6 weeks scan this time around. all I wanted to hear that they can see that I am pregnant! the fact that they could see the heartbeat was a huge surprise!

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 21:25

Thanks working - Sorry to hear about your mmc, I'm glad things are going better for you this time round x

I'm still having other symptoms, including my 4 hour 'nap' yesterday afternoon but I can't shake this horrible feeling. I think I will ring my GP tomorrow about my cramps, just for some reassurance or guidance I guess. They had eased off a little bit yesterday but since coming home from work tonight they have really started up again

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Cakebaby2012 · 29/07/2013 21:28

I think they can usually see a blob in your uterus right from the beginnjng of pregnancy but they recommend waiting until 8 weeks because (1) they sometimes have to perform the scan vaginally if its earlier and (2) you're less likely to see the heartbeat which means slightly less reassurance. I paid £80 for mine and it was money well spent for me.

A slight word of warning about the Doppler - my MIL is a GP and used to bring one home from the surgery when we visited. She usually had to fiddle around for a while to get the heartbeat and I imagine its more difficult for a non medically trained person. It might not be very reassuring if you can't find the heartbeat when you try!

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Writerwannabe83 · 29/07/2013 21:30

Cake baby - I agree. I think if I couldn't find the heartbeat (through not being able to use the machine correctly) I'd be an absolute wreck!!! I don't think its a road I dare go down!!

Did anyone else ever suffer with restless legs early in pregnancy too?
Going to bed is a nightmare, they are so achey x

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AnnabelleLee · 29/07/2013 21:31

I don't want to be the voice of doom, but honestly, you don't really. You just have to hope for the best. I've had pregnancies that seemed to be going well and then turned out to be missed miscarriages, and I've had ones with bleeding and cramping that turned out fine. This is just the unspoken reality of pregnancy.
Take comfort in the fact that the further you go along with symptoms the better your chances are, and once you do see a heartbeat that you have a95% chance of a successful outcome. Cramps are normal at your stage, try not to worry.
The best of luck.

Londongirl84 · 29/07/2013 22:34

Hi writer,

I couldn't relate more to where you are coming from. I'm currently 11 weeks with my first DC and haven't stopped worrying since I had my BFP 7 weeks ago. I couldn't recommend having an early scan more highly- it really was the best moment of my life seeing that little heartbeat. My doctor told me that there is zero point having a scan before 7 week as sometimes they can't see the heartbeat before this so why cause yourself unnecessary worry. Our early scan was expensive but it was worth every penny and more. Wishing you so much luck and report back. I'm sure you'll be fine and will feel that moment of euphoria very soon :) x

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Writerwannabe83 · 30/07/2013 18:49

Thanks guys,

I'm hoping that by focusing on the symptoms that I am having, it will make me stay positive that everything is going ok.

Over the last 2 days I have felt exhausted - and today nausea seems to have set in...

I have my first midwife appointment next week and I will only be 6wk+6 - I thought this was quite early to see one???

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Definitelysometime · 30/07/2013 19:02

Hi writer. I got my BFP the same day as you and am yet to feel a single symptom. The fact that you have tiredness and dizziness sounds pretty promising to me!. I have had zilch. My doc was also dismissive, not offering another test etc, but actually I found it very reassuring. He didn't seem worried in the least, and I'm going to try not to worry too.

Am definitely planning an early scan though, at around 7+3. I'm off for a week's holiday with my family and reaaaaallly want to tell them then. To be fair, they'll guess within 3 seconds of me turning down wine...

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