I feel like an alien

[sjyay]

Today I have cried with frustration , I feel like people are treating me like some kind of monster. No one told me that pregnancy would feel so isolating. Even my parents have treated me with such ignorance I find it exasperating to explain every mood or choice I have made. my anxiety is through the roof and I feel like scratching my eyes out . I know it is hormones but I just wish people would give me a break and try to understand .

I am 8 weeks pregnant and freaking out

I am 14 weeks and sympathise. This is dc3 and I've found people are a lot more sympathetic to pregnancy symptoms once you are actually showing.

I have been unbelievably tired for weeks now but trying to get dh to understand that is really hard work. As I have no bump, he thinks I should carry on as normal.

You don't have to justify any choice though. Its your body and it is enough to say, this is my decision, end of conversation.

I just always feel like I have to try and make people understand so that I don't feel like a total nutter . I have been sleeping 2 hours in the afternoon during my holiday but back to work tomorrow and dreading an 8 hour day with no nap

They may never understand. Its not your problem. Its theirs. You are definitely not a nutter.

Give yourself the freedom not to care what they think. Have confidence in your choices. Easier said than done I know.

Do you already have kids? If not just you wait the exhaustion of pregnancy is nothing compared to having kids. If you already have kids I feel for you I'm 30 weeks pregnant with a 21 month DS who wakes at 5am everyday and I work full time - exhaustion does even cover it . . . But it's even harder explaining to a 21 month old.

Sod what everyone else thinks - if its first pregnancy just go and enjoy it and sleep as much as possible!

It is completely draining. I work 12-14 hour days and sometimes my DH used to lament the fact that I collapsed onto the bed as soon as I got through the door.

Once I started getting fatter, and we had a few problems, he became more sympathetic.

Hi sjyay, if it's any consolation I know how your feeling. Sometimes I don't even get any sympathy from DH who tells me to stop moaning which makes me feel quite isolated and wonder if I am just making a fuss of nothing. My parents don't live anywhere near me and neither do friends but sometimes I quite like that. I have also felt like a bit of an alien throughout pregnancy (I am sue v soon!). I think some people just don't know how to take pregnancy. My friends (none of which have children) just seem to ask me question after question which makes me want to see them less. Luckily the pregnant women I have met seem a bit more 'normal' so might be a good idea to join a group if you feel up to it so you don't feel so much like an alien. I do find though that even that can be a bit of a struggle. In 'reality' I don't think I would be friends with many of the women I have met through pregnancy groups but then gotta get what I can! My parents are not much help emotionally (this is nothing new) - they are great when it comes to financial support but when I have tried to open up to my mum about various things her general response is one that makes me wish I had never opened my mouth so I find it easier to write about my feelings on here where at least people don't tell you to shut up and tell you you shouldn't feel like you do. I have found the whole pregnancy experience rather boring I must say. I just want my life and body back. One word that has def summed up my pregnancy so far is FRUSTRATING! Maybe it is hormones but I just need to chill. Having a good old drink after work or at weekends used to be enough to chill me out as well as regular exercise but I just feel so trapped waiting for this to be over.

This post might not help you but just wanted you to know that you are not alone. People do need you to give you a break I agree but sometimes, from my experience they just won't. Mainly because they are idiots not you.

x

I find pregnancy dull as well.

You are told it will be an amazing, special time of your life and you will bloom but it just isn't like for that for everyone.

Some of it is amazing, the scans and feeling the baby move are incredible. But the rest is just bloody hard work.

I also think the tiredness is on a different level when pg. I have had two newborns and I can handle the lack of sleep that comes with a baby but the sheer exhaustion that comes from early pregnancy is far far worse IMHO. With a newborn, if you can get a few hours sleep in, you will feel instantly better but hormonal tiredness in pregnancy is unrelenting, regardless of how much sleep you have had.

This is my first pregnancy ever, just so tired, angry and emotional on a day to day basis I feel like I am loosing my mind . I will get a mental health support worker as I suffer from anxiety . I just generally want to be left alone . I feel terribly selfish . thank you all so much for your messages they have really helped . x SJ