The Great Gender Scan Debate

[LouisaJF]

It's only early days but we've started to think about whether we want to find out.

With our first child DH desperately wanted a boy and wanted to know beforehand. This time, whilst DH still hopes for another boy neither of us are quite as bothered what it is. He would like to find out, I'm leaning towards wanting the surprise.

For those of you who opted not to find out, how did you find it? Was it worth it or is it just another thing to add to the emotions of the birth? Did it make decisions beforehand difficult in choosing names, colours etc? Do you still bond with the bump the same way?

Found out with all 3 of ours and would again as felt that it was helpful to pick a name and bond with baby but it is personal choice. Neither DH or I told anyone else so we sort of had our little secret which was nice.

Why does your DH want boys so much?

This is my fourth and we've done both - found out with DS1 &2 and surprise with DS3. It's entirely up to you, as there are for and against arguments to both. I do get a little bit bitey when people make fatuous comments like 'it'll make you push harder/get you through labour'' - maybe that's why I ended up with an EmCS with DS1 (although it doesn't explain my straight-forward, drug-free VBAC with DS2...).

We didn't find out with either but at the 20 week scan both times the sonographer referred to the baby as 'he'. I didn't ask though and convinced myself that they probably used that term anyway just to avoid saying 'it' so still felt I had a surprise. Did anyone else have that? Both did turn out to be boys. DH didn't notice and I didn't even tell him as I knew he wanted a surprise too.

The hospital I went to for those scans did not have the screen facing me and the sonographer just turned it to me to show various images. I was happy with this as I am trained in a related field and I'm sure I would have been able to tell. We do plan to have another one and have since moved. In some hospitals are you able to watch the full scan? If so I'm not sure I could stop myself from looking even if I decided not to find out again.

I think it's a personal choice, and i can understand both.
I had a sexing scan yesterday, but i mainly went because i wanted to see my baby was ok, had a mc in feb
But finding out baby was a girl was an extra bonus and i now know what sort of things to buy and we already have a name!
I found out with all my children except dd2 as she wasn't playing ball

So sorry Pumpkins x

My friend is expecting twins and is finding out sex hopefully this coming Friday, more for practicality reasons. They'd been trying for over 2 years, then 2 came along at once so they want to know if they're bb/gg/bg. It's just personally choice.