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Do not touch my bump!

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MultipleMama · 23/07/2013 21:28

Why do strangers or friends for that matter think it's okay to touch my bump without asking?!

I think it's rude to touch someone's bump without asking or knowing that person at least. I don't mind people asking me about the babies or my pregnancy; I actually find it nice but I hate when they assume they can touch my belly.

Hell, even my DF asks me out of politeness. So, why can't strangers/friends (my answer to strangers would be no. Too personal in my opinion.)

Sorry for rant. 3 strangers and 2 friends tried to do today and it just set off my hormones.

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ValentineWiggins · 23/07/2013 21:30

I wish I had had the presence of mind to grab their boobs back when they do it! It used to drive me bonkers!

Lovemyprincess4eva · 23/07/2013 21:35

I hate it!! It just feels too close and uncomfortable!! Only like DH touching it when she is kicking x

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MultipleMama · 23/07/2013 21:38

I felt like slapping their hands away instead I just stepped back.

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MultipleMama · 23/07/2013 21:41

Only my 4 bambinos have free reign to touch my bump. I hate being touched or fussed when I'm not well, even DH irritates me when he tries to touch bump when I'm trying to sleep!

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LostMySocks · 23/07/2013 22:33

I love having my bump touched ..... But only by people I know and only if they ask first. The new grads at work are fascinated by my bump and all want to touch it (they do ask first though and are genuinely interested) and seem to be on bump watch telling me that it's showing and demanding updates on kicking.

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KarmaBiatch · 23/07/2013 22:57

haha, I hate this too! I was recently at a wedding where a lot of people touched my bump before even saying hello, so I just put my hand on their tummy too and saw hiw confused they looked, but it worked and everyone got the message. I love when people I am close to want to touch and talk to my bump though, it really makes me know that baby will be so loved by all those who mean the most to us :)

Xmasbaby11 · 23/07/2013 23:40

I'm not sure it would bother me that much, but I honestly can't imagine it happening. Lots of people showed interest and chatted to me during pregnancy, but nobody tried to touch me. Weird!

Futterby · 23/07/2013 23:45

With family, they're welcome to touch my bump. Friends have to ask. Strangers can fuck off.

Teaandflapjacks · 24/07/2013 07:17

my MIL does this - I have taken to wearing floaty scarves when i see her to try and fend her off but it doesn't work. I have left it far to late to say anything to her about it now either

pinkr · 24/07/2013 08:30

One person at a wedding actually touched me stop much so could tell the baby is lying up my left side under my ribs!

Whitegrenache · 24/07/2013 08:38

Oops, I met up with a friend last night for a group meal and I welcomed her with a big smile and stroked her bump I meant it with the best of intentions as I am so pleased for her.

Franykins · 24/07/2013 10:24

I hate it. So far though no strangers have tried, someone I know but don't count as a friend was at DSS party (his aunt) she didn't speak to me to 45 mins then just came up rubbed my belly and said can you feel them (twins) move yet. I was like, erm! Yes thanks. And stepped back. My sis tries to whenever she gets the chance, and I know its out of excitement but I do wish she asked first. Her hubby has a couple of times as well. I don't mind so much now I have a VERY noticeable bump. My niece, nephew and step sons are welcome to touch/rub/cuddle bump any time they like though as they are all so excited too and rather fascinated that there are two babies in there What I love is DP cuddling me and bump as we fall asleep, I can't wait till one of them kicks him too!

TruJay · 24/07/2013 12:44

I can understand the excitement and how people are so fascinated by the fact that there is a tiny human in your belly! But why a complete stranger would even think its ok to touch u I've no idea, if u weren't pregnant and a stranger touched u its an actual offence. And u wouldn't hand over your newborn to a stranger to hold, I just don't think they think enough into it before going ahead. I've never had it happen to me with strangers tho, I am a bitch this pregnancy tho so it could be the vibe I give or maybe the huge f**k off stamped on my forehead lol

Hekkie · 24/07/2013 13:31

I don't mind close friends and family having a quick stroke but I bumped into my ex (male) boss the other day and he had an uninvited feel of my bump!

I felt a bit weirded out afterwards - it was way too personal and inappropriate.

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MultipleMama · 24/07/2013 15:08

Franykins - It's twins for me too. Also, get the comment, "you can tell it's twins, can't you?" I felt like saying, well thank you for confirming that beech whale is slimmer than me!

I usually love cuddling with DH, he's so cold it's lovely (I can't sleep if I'm too warm, so even ups the warmness of the blanket) but one twin is active at night and has decided my ribs are her favourite plaything so him caressing my bump makes her worse.

I'm such a moaner, today I feel sorry my kids haha.

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