Need some reassurance (bit long sorry)

[laura2323]

I am currently expecting my first baby and my head is all over the place. I feel that my midwives/GP do not listen and I am not close to my family so I don't know where else to turn. Maybe you lovely people out there could help me?!

1. My first issue is my due date. I have been given the 1st November (making me 24 weeks). This is going on the fact my last period was 25/1/13. However, this was not a "normal" period, was very light and lasted about 36 hrs. It would also mean I conceived in the middle of a 2 week hospital stay! I believe I conceived just after new year while I was on holiday making me 2 weeks further along. Scans say am measuring 2 weeks more than my notes (which is by my reckoning).

1. My second issue is I have severe asthma, and with this heat and the added weight of the baby I am really struggling. I am using inhalers (I have done since I was 18 months old). However my GP will not renew my repeat prescription or see me when I have an attack, just tells me to see my MW who then tells me to see my GP. I am grind passed from pillar to post.

1. My third issue is I have been experiencing pain in my joints since I was approx 5/6 weeks. Reading other topics I know this is quite common but now these pains are so bad that I can barely walk. These pains originated in my pelvis/hip area and sometimes felt like period pain, they now travel all over body especially up and down back and across shoulders. My knees and ankles have swollen. MW & GP have, IMO, shrugged me off as all routine tests come back fine and just snap " it's normal" to me. My fiance was nearly thrown out of GP surgery after community midwife told me off for wasting my GP time, after going in in tears because I couldn't stand pain.

1. My final issue is I was made redundant just before Xmas and although i have being trying to find another job, no one wants to hire a pregnant lady! I am not entitled to any financial help eg job seekers, sure start, mat pay etc. the reason being my fiancé earns £1.50 too much a month. he is fantastic in supporting us in every way possible. we have found some fantastic 2nd hand sites for pram/cot etc but I am worried for when baby arrives that we won't be able to afford the necessities e.g nappies, etc (we are barely managing now).

Sorry for the long essay! Just don't know where else to go!

I'm sure someone more helpful will be along soon but my first thought is can you change GP?

Aleene
This is a new GP! Loads of surgeries in my area have closed down and merged into big practices, and this is the only one I'm in the catchment area for!!! Doesn't help that I see a different MW each time! Just feeling at a loss at the moment! Xx

This could be good news tho - I had my dating scan late due to changing GP practices so at 18.5 weeks or thereabouts. I'd estimated my dates when speaking to the practice midwife so that was already down on my notes when going for the scan. They reckoned I could be up to a week or so off when I went for a scan but they told me the NHS practice was to not change the date once it was in the book but as I was likely to be early(big baby) not to worry about it. I ended up under huge pressure and was induced unhappily at due date + 15... Next time I'm going to try to fib about my dates to get a little extra time if I need it, will not agree to be induced again. Good luck!

Check the gov website as you might get maternity allowance? You have to have worked so many weeks in a time period. I'm self employed and just about to apply for that. It's around £130 a week (Sorry if I'm wrong and getting your hopes up).

I wouldn't worry about your due date, the baby will come when he/she comes. Think it's quite common for them to get it wrong. My friend was given a due date that would have meant she conceived when her DH was in Afghanistan

It's awful u were told u were wasting your GPs time!

Not much help here except we are in a similar position financially. Just finished my degree and finding it hard to get work when pg and DH earns just enough so that we can't get financial support. We're even having to live at in laws at the mo! Which sites did you find for second hand baby items OP?