At other 1st trimester preggos feeling frustrated?

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I'm so exciting about being pregnant but at the same time it feels really unreal. I'm 8+3 and searching for some sort of validation. Having been ttc and really looking forward to it I was thrilled when I got a BFP when 16days late (had several BFNs the week before). I have seen my GP who frankly couldn't have cared less and didn't do a test or anything (although did agree to book a mid-wife app) and now I'm just waiting..... I've had some fun symptoms: nausea, cramping, dizziness I've had no bleeding so everything should be good to go but I just feel like I need something definite. A you are pregnant arrow pointing at my belly?
Sorry this is a silly post: I just want to shout from the roof tops that I'm going to have a baby and then the nagging voice in my head says...but you might not...it could all go wrong...don't tell anyone..... Do other mumsnetters have this?

Definatly, those first weeks are weird such big news for you and it feels like Dr/ MW don't really care. Tbh mine carried on until my scan which wasn't until 18 weeks, and I'd felt the bb move but still had myself convinced I might not really be preg as I'd had no blood tests yet. Hopefully you get a scan date through soon, so you can start counting down to your big annoucement

Do you have a close freind, or sister maybe that you could tell now so you have someone to talk to until you make the real annoucement?

Oh definitely! I'm 9+5 and increasingly impatient! I saw evidence of pregnancy at 6 weeks as I d a scan for suspected ectopic (it wasn't), but it still doesn't quite feel real. My husband keeps sighing as we agreed to keep it quiet, but I just can't help telling people that I trust(yes, this is our first). It's just soooo exciting. But on the other-hand I'm paranoid about every single twinge, and paranoid about not having enough symptoms (I know that's crazy). I go through days of feeling pregnant and days when I just don't feel it.

So good to hear I'm not alone.
I am telling my parents on Wednesday (they've been on holiday and I wanted to do it face to face) to that should help make it a bit more real.
It doesn't help that my stomach feel huge and straining my trousers (combination of bloating from nausea and not running for 3 weeks again through nausea) but I get the mad idea that maybe I'm more pregnant than I am...

This is so completely normal. I found the midwives werent really too bothered with you at first, which is when you often feel you need that reassurance. Thankfully we have mumsnet where we can tell people although i've told nearly everyone

Try not to worry, once you tell your parents it will start sinking in more, again when you have had your booking in appointment and got your scan date. And when you start wearing your first pair of maternity jeans/trousers which are seriously much more comfortable once you start getting a more rounded tummy & bump

I'm 12 weeks with my second and its definitely been easier this time as i have the distraction of a toddler.

Complete and utter strike-out fail there. i'm blaming baby brain!

I'm so fed up right now! I'm a teacher - still teaching! We break up on Weds... it's hot. I feel bloated but that's about it. I'm 12+3 and have the scan on Thurs. Terrified it won't be ok and at the same time cannot wait to be able to tell people! So near yet so far!

I had the exact same feelings (now 20 weeks). Due to my job i had to tell people early and so many hurtful comments about it not being safe/real/definite until 12 weeks, nobody took it seriously. Everytime i heard that they crushed my excitement, so i refused to let myself get excited until i saw our little wriggler on the screen! Very active and very real. I was so scared the night before my first scan i cried, but i know so many ladies who say they felt the same. I have my anomaly scan soon and im dreading that too. I think we are just programmed worriers! I'm sure everything is just fine, good luck!

I feel the same. It took us a while to get a BFP and now it happened I'm still symptom spotting. I felt I'll over the weekend with nausea but that's subsided a little bit today to the point I've almost been in tears a few times thinking something's wrong. People are very insensitive I've found if you've told them before the 12 week mark as someone else mentioned. It's almost as though you shouldn't acknowledge it in case something goes wrong, this has made me stress even more. He ho, just willing the next 4 weeks to go quickly so ill be 12 weeks.

I'm too exhausted to feel anything but tiredness. Last week was morning/all day sickness, this week so very very very tired. I could sleep for England.

I'm waiting for a dating scan though as we have no idea how far along I am - ranges from 6-10 weeks maybe.

I felt like this too! Found out 2 days before my period was due so really early.

GP/MW not really bothered as not much they could do at that stage and the wait until the 12 week scan felt like 8 years rather than 8 weeks

We only told parents before 12 weeks who were great and I told my boss at 7 weeks due to my job. Luckily he was (and still is) great and really looks after me bless him but we get on well anyway.

I had quite a few symptoms but it still felt unreal and I was convinced that they would say there was no baby at my 12 week scan. I actually burst into tears when we got in there . All was great though!

Then felt nervous at 16 week appointment as I thought mw wouldn't find the hb (she did!)

Wasn't as bad before 20 week scan as could feel movements but still worried something would be wrong but all was perfect and I'm now 22 weeks

Honestly the scan will make it seem so much more real

Hang in there! X

I'm 14 weeks and despite having had 2 scans (I'm diabetic so get scanned every month) I still don't feel like I'm pregnant! Waiting to go in for my first scan I was convinced they'd tell me there was nothing there and I was never pregnant to start with and even at the second I wasn't 100% certain that wouldn't happen! I've had 'morning' sickness and have a bit of a bump now but to be honest I'm a size 18 and have always had a belly so even that doesn't prove anything if that makes sense! Can't wait for the nice symptoms to start like feeling it move and hearing the heartbeat. Until then I'm just tired, hot and grumpy!