Struggling a bit with sex during pregancy

[Thisisme123]

I'm 29 weeks and, while sex certainly hasn't been very frequent since I got pregnant, we've managed to work up to it occasionally!

However, I'm finding that I'm getting very sore during sex, despite using plenty of lube and making sure I'm properly "ready" IYSWIM . Has anyone else experienced this? I'd like to continue to have sex as long as we both want to, but I just don't feel is possible with the way things are. I'm having to stop DH part way through, which makes me feel bad and although he's been completely understanding about it, he must be frustrated.

As an aside, has anyone actually managed to pull off the spoons position? Maybe the height difference between DH and I is too great, but I can't see how it works? We gave it a go to see if that would be a gentler position for me, but we don't seem to fit together!!

No spoons isn't working for me. It just chaffes. Me on top or sat face to face is only thing that seems to work I am finding it more painfull and just doesnt feel as good as it used to and a couple of times just stopped him and said its not working for me! Dont have any great advice as having the same issues. Sounds like you are doing all the right things like lots of lube already. Just keep trying and expect it to be hit and miss. Last time we did it was great. If you have a strong bond it won't matter if it occasionally ends up in disaster.

Same here just feels really swollen down there anyway and find penetration really uncomfy. Found lube does help.
Not been having much sex as sex drive is pretty non existent. Do feel sorry for hubby though.

I find applying cold aqueous cream beforehand helps. Am also having a bit of a sore fanny at the mo, so plenty of lube helps. I'm even tempted to start using aqueous cream as lube!

Failing that, a tit wank usually does the job.

During pregnancy with DC1 I worried about how much sex I had and it was an added stress. Talked about it before conceiving DC2 with DH and we both agreed that we wouldn't worry about it all, especially after the baby's arrived, as we knew eventually our sex life would go back to normal and it's been so much better. Without the worry of 'oh god, we really should have sex more' we both find it happens much more spontaneously
and is actually enjoyable. Now pregnant with DC3 and taking the relaxed approach to having a sex life (or not) and it's much, much better.

We have yet to find a way that doesn't turn me into a huffing walrus, so have abandoned the whole idea... TBH my hips ache so much, and every way I can lie ends up uncomfortable very quickly so it wasn't doing anything for me anyhow (I have no idea how others manage)

Try on your side with your top leg bent up and your lower leg straight between his legs, him on top. The change in hormones and the pressure of the baby can make things uncomfortable in later pregnancy. Have you also checked yourself for a yeast infection?

Thanks all.

Andanotherthing it's not that Im worrying about how much sex we're having - there are times when I would really like to, but we can't. All of the other stuff is all very nice, but its not quite hitting the button for me .

AnotherStitch I'm pretty sure no yeast infection, I haven't got any other symptoms and I've never had a problem with thrush before.

DH seems to think I'm even more attractive with a visible bump, which is great for my self esteem - I've never felt more comfortable with my body - and I'd like to be able to make what I can of that feeling! I dare say I won't feel quite the same once the bump isn't all smooth and taught!

There are other ways to erm... Feel.satisfied without sex? :D i get sore sometimes and oral seems to do the trick if all else fails :)!. 69 is a lil awkward but taking turns is better that nothing. :) wjat kind of lube are you using? Water based is no good as it.dries very quickly. Make sure you're using a decent silicone based lube :)! Good luck :) x