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Did u find out the sex of your first baby?

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blondebaby111 · 18/07/2013 11:59

One minute we want to know, then we don't, then we do and atm we don't again!! Its our first baby, just wondered did u find out with your first??

The advantages are, I hate calling baby 'baby' or it and also there are lots of things in just pink or blue, no neutral colours!!

BUT......

It must be so exciting to just carry on guessing and after a long labour the surprise must be fantastic!! What to do, what to do!!! We have six weeks to decide

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CheeseFondueRocks · 18/07/2013 12:12

We did. What do you mean by you got 6 weeks? Til your due date? If so, I don't think I'd bother. You'll be full-term in 3 weeks and baby might come anytime. If you weren't too bothered until now, I'd wait for a surprise.

We found at 16 weeks because we really wanted to know and will be doing it again with this pregnancy.

MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic · 18/07/2013 12:15

I couldn't stand not knowing - I like to plan ahead. We didn't actually find out with DS1 because he was camera shy and crossed his legs at every bloody scan, but we knew in advance with DS2 and DD.

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blondebaby111 · 18/07/2013 12:17

No another six weeks til 5 month scan if was that far ahead I wouldn't bother either. People keep saying to not find out as with your first its a lovley surprise but I do like to be organised and not have too many neutral things. Its so tough to know what to do xx

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missesjellybean · 18/07/2013 12:18

first baby I wanted to know from the start... this time I was adamant I wasn't going to find out but as soon as I was in the scan room I was like......tell me!

CheeseFondueRocks · 18/07/2013 12:22

In that case, I'd find out. You might not be able to see anything anyway, so I'd just go with what happens on he day.

Hashtagwhatever · 18/07/2013 12:23

I did and did also with the births after. Now I have had my lot and don't wish to add anymore babies., I do wish I had of had atleast one as a surprise.

MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic · 18/07/2013 12:23

I never get the surprise thing tbh. It's going to be a girl or a boy, not that much of a surprise

Don't listen to other people - just think about what you and your DP want and what works for you (and that's probably good advice for after your DC is born too...)

IBelieveInPink · 18/07/2013 12:24

I am 23 weeks with my first - a girl. We wanted to find out, and I'm so glad we did! It has been so much fun calling her 'her' and starting shopping for little outfits. We wanted most of our 'big' stuff - pram/cot gender neutral anyway, so it is really just for us to feel like we are getting to know her.

But then, my friend didn't want to find out and loved the surprise- she said she pushed harder because she was so keen to know!

It's really gonna be up to you at the end of the day - but hope the above helps :)

BabyStone · 18/07/2013 12:25

We found out, both of us wanted to know. Out of 5 people I know including me who were due all within 10days of each other, myself and 2 others found out, one wanted to know but at the scan the baby was in an awkward position so she didnt find out and the other girl didn't want to know at all

I didn't like not knowing and don't really like surprises

happyhorse · 18/07/2013 12:26

I didn't, and knowing that I was so near to finally finding out really helped me get through the last part of a difficult labour.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 18/07/2013 12:27

yup. and picked the name.

i didnt care about a surprise. i wanted to know.

LongTailedTit · 18/07/2013 12:28

I found out - I don't like surprises as it is, and had a slight preference for a girl. When I found out DS was a boy it took me a while to get my head around, I'm very glad I had the time to process it and then get excited to meet my little boy.

My sister found out for her first, a girl, then didn't for her second. She thought she was having another girl and had a few brief seconds of disappointment that he was a boy. She felt awful about that, still does now, so found out again for DC3, another boy.

I wouldn't find out if it was just for organising purposes, just make a firm list of what will be needed and get your DP to order it all online as soon as your baby arrives - online delivery is the way forward!
However, if you think you may have a slight preference, in any way, I'd find out.

PumpkinPie2013 · 18/07/2013 12:30

I'm 21 weeks with my first and we haven't found out

Just really want the surprise at the birth and have fun in the mean time speculating, choosing names for both etc.

In terms of clothes, I've found quite a few things that can be for either a boy or a girl including things in bright colours e.g. hungry caterpillar clothes but you do have to look a bit harder than you do for the blue/pink

CeliaLytton · 18/07/2013 12:32

I didn't but lots of my friends did. I have never known anyone to be disappointed with the decision they made though, at 20 weeks or 40 weeks it is still a surprise when you find out!

And although I didn't find out with my own, I loved it when friends found out

thegoldenfool · 18/07/2013 12:33

i found out, we are mixed nationalities so it halved the number of names we had to think about!

also a bit of autism history in my family and got it into my head that less likely if a girl so I wanted to prepare myself

DPs father didn´t want to know so we didn´t tell his side of the family

Thyeternalsummer · 18/07/2013 12:33

37 weeks pregnant with my first - a boy.

It was a really special moment at the scan when we found out. I waited until they'd done all the checks etc, and then asked whether they were able to tell the sex. The sonographer said 'haven't you noticed?' and then guided the scanner to show us the all important shot. So happy that I actually teared up, as did my partner.

Really glad I found out. We have 'our' name which we use when talking about him, all our close relatives ask after 'x' rather than baby, and we've been able to talk about 'x' with my partners daughter. We've even decorated a decoupage letter for his nursery door, along with another one for my DSD's bedroom. It feels as though he's part of the family already.

silasramsbottom · 18/07/2013 12:35

I found out. Loads of people told me I shouldn't find out, you'll lose the surprise etc, but when they put my DS in my arms I said "hello DS, I've been waiting to meet you". It felt like I knew him already and I wouldn't trade that for the world.

nancerama · 18/07/2013 12:38

We didn't find out, but suspected we were having a boy. We had a boy.

If you're planning on having more than one, neutral stuff is brilliant as you can pass it on from one baby to the next.

Twinklestarstwinklestars · 18/07/2013 12:38

We didn't want to find out with all 3, ds1 we guessed from a very late scan, ds2 blabbed that ds1 would soon have a brother and ds3 we actually made it to the end! We didn't see the point of finding out at 20 weeks and even if we did I wouldn't have told anyone else til it was born.

MrsJ78 · 18/07/2013 12:50

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Preggobear · 18/07/2013 12:58

We didn't find out and I'm glad that we have the surprise! I always thought I'd want to know but as soon as I got pregnant I totally changed my mind! We are both looking forward to the surprise at the end and I am hoping it will grt me through the last tricky stages of birth!!!

The only downside I would say to not finding out is that most neutral clothes tend to be white, or cream which is a bit boring!!

Each to their own and you have to do whatever is best for you

DuelingFanjo · 18/07/2013 12:58

We didn't, though because I had an amnio it was written down in a sealed amnio result report which I discovered half way through the pregnancy but decided not to look at nor to tell my husband about.

When my DS was born I forgot to ask what the sex was for ages.

Kelly1814 · 18/07/2013 12:58

28 weeks and we don't know, i like it :)

70% of people find out, apparently.

CuteLittleToes · 18/07/2013 13:01

We didn't want to know, and just as well the baby had crossed legs during scan, so no disappointment there :)

Our friends didn't want to know either, but they asked the sonographer to write it on a piece of paper and put it into an envelope in case they changed their mind. They only looked at it after birth :)

So maybe it is something you could do as well? Although if I was in doubt like you I'm not sure I would resist the temptation :)

PinkApple86 · 18/07/2013 13:02

We found out at 20wk scan - a boy. Very glad we did as we have now picked his name and painted his room and got lots of outfits, as lots of shops don't have a lot of neutral stuff. It's also made him feel like a real person to us, and not just a mystery baby. It's allowed us to bond with him in our heads. Our opinion was that we'd find out eventually so why not find out before the birth so we can prepare.

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