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not feeling any emotion for this pregnancy

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Stom91 · 12/07/2013 23:40

im 16 weeks pregnant and found out when i was 7 weeks. boyfriend is over the moon! but i just don't feel anything, one minute i want to be pregnant the next im hating it. getting fat eating all the time being so exhausted i can barely keep my eyes open at work... im only 21 i feel too young ( even though there are many people younger than me that have coped!) my boyfriend is 28 he's done what he wants to do, been abroad, got a good career etc. i don't feel like ive done any of that. Don't get me wrong i want a baby ( i think) and i want to give my boyfriend what he wants i just absolutely hate being pregnant right now and don't feel anything towards this baby. i hope it changes :(

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Lydia161290 · 13/07/2013 00:10

I'm sorry to hear that you're finding it difficult. Pregnancy is hard, no matter what anybody says. A friend of mine didn't feel anything maternal throughout her entire pregnancy. She felt horrible and very distant. But once her baby came, everything changed.
I think it's a case of hang in there.

ZingWidge · 13/07/2013 00:15

I'm sorry you feel that way, but I can reassure you others feel similarly at times!

I think we are pg for 9 months because we need time to adjust.

having a baby is a massive change.
I understand you feel apprehensive, it is a scary thought to be so responsible for someone.
and pg is hard, demanding physically, mentally & emotionally - but again so is motherhood, for which you are being prepared.

I think it would be a good idea to talk to your midwife or GP about your anxieties and doubts. you might be able to get some counselling soon. you need support in real life.

can you talk to your BF about these things?

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Stom91 · 13/07/2013 00:16

yea, i feel sooo guilty for feeling like this :(

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Cravingdairy · 13/07/2013 00:17

Tell your midwife or GP how you feel so they can check you out for antenatal depression. Not to say you definitely have it but worth checking. Pregnancy is hard! I felt a lot better after 20 weeks, I hope you feel better soon yourself. You will get your freedom back eventually and you will still be young enough to enjoy it!

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Stom91 · 13/07/2013 00:21

yeah he knows i told him all this last week hope id feel better, i did until tonight. but now ive told him he feels like hes pushed me into it. (which he hasnt) and all i do is cry. i never cry (which i know mst of the time crying is normal lol ) x

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Stom91 · 13/07/2013 00:23

i just feel like everyone wants this except me. and there hasnt been a time whre i can just enjoy it. as my mum told some of the fam before i did which really annoyed me!

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SeriousStuff · 13/07/2013 00:34

I felt/still feel like this at times. I'm 32 years old and today I'm 27 weeks. Pregnancy is overwhelming. My DH and I are old enough, stable enough and had discussed trying for a baby for a long time, but it doesn't make it any easier when it happens.

As your pregnancy progresses, you do start to feel more of a connection. I remember for the first 12 weeks, I just felt horrendous and as you don't get scanned until 12 weeks and there's no stomach on show and you can't feel the baby move, it can be very difficult to associate everything with what's wonderful about having a baby.

As for feeling you've missed out on things - don't think that having the baby is the end of your life. If you have things you really aspire to and want to do e.g. study, travel...a baby won't hold you back. I have loads of things I want to do and I'm looking forward now to doing them with my growing family.

Congratulations on your pregnancy - it's scary but an amazing adventure Smile

SeriousStuff · 13/07/2013 00:35

...oh, and forgot to say - I'm crying on average three times a day at the moment. Today I cried because my dog really wanted to play fetch and I was too exhausted but felt so bad for him having to miss out on play! Ridiculous!

x0gawjus0x · 13/07/2013 11:38

Maybe you told ppl too early should of given yourself time to think it through and enjoy it efore everyone else got involves and the crying thing tell me about it im 21 in 2 months and preg with my first i get so angry and upset about everything and everytime i argue with me fiance i wonder if ive done the right thing getting pregnant been with him over 3 years but still have doubts but i suppose theyd be there however old you are or been with some1 xx

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