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flowerpotgirl12 · 12/07/2013 08:42

i really just wanted a vent, i'm 9 weeks pregnant with my first DC, i have put on quite a bit of weight around my boobs and stomach, which is bloating most likely but it's making me feel very self conscious, obviously i knew i would gain weight but it's so early and no one knows so just look fat. THe problem is we're about to go off on holiday with his ds and her family and i was trying on my swimmnig stuff last night and looked horrendous, i was upset and my DP just got annoyed at me about being stupid, for the last few months we've only been dtd weekly which i have stated many times it's not enough but now i'm feeling insecure it's makes me feel like crap. He never compliments me and we hardly have sex and just really wanted a cuddle last night and a you look fine (even if fibbing about it). Don't think my hormones are helping either. Sorry for the long rambly post just wondering if anyone else is feeling like this?

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flowerpotgirl12 · 12/07/2013 08:44

sorry just noticed the appauling spelling, should proof read before sending!

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rubyanddiamond · 12/07/2013 09:02

I also bloated a lot in early pregnancy, and for a while felt like I'd just put on lots of weight. And the pregnancy hormones really don't help with insecurity either. But, by about 12 weeks the bloating subsided, and I felt a lot better as I started to look pregnant instead of chubby.

Can you buy a few maternity bits for your holiday that fit better? Also, drink loads of water as that'll help, even though it feels like the wrong thing to do!

As for your DH, he sounds really unsupportive :( have you talked to him?

RoLoh · 12/07/2013 09:36

Often men don't really understand this kind of thing. Hopefully he'll be more understanding once you begin to show and he can see the baby growing!

I felt the same way about myself and was totally insecure on holiday with a very skinny couple! But you get used to it. The bloating will subside hopefully. Just keep active and don't eat for two and it'll all even out Smile

Can't suggest anything on the sex front. Some men feel weird about doing it when their partner is preggers!

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flowerpotgirl12 · 12/07/2013 09:52

Thanks, I think i am a bit all over the place at the moment, and the swimming costume tipped me over the edge, to be fair to my dp he's never been one to compliment but i know he loves me. Think he is confused by me at the moment. I do need to talk to him though as feeling so insecure and just want a bit of TLC.

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Chickpea1983 · 12/07/2013 10:07

If you can buy a new swimming costume, try a Tankini. It made me feel a lot better than baring my stomach when 11 weeks pregnant. Also, I avoided bread (whilst still having other carbs) and fizzy drinks which helped with the bloating.

I think I have a very special DH who is massively supportive, but he has made a couple of blunders along the way with a few insensitive (but totally unintended) comments. They make mistakes (they are only human), and we are hugely sensitive right now. Consider if there is a negative intention to the comment. If so, tell him to fuck off. If not, calm yourself and tell him how it made you feel. I am not a man hater, but they do tend to lack empathy so you may have a bit of work trying to make him see the impact of his words/behaviour.

This is my first, but I have heard a lot of people say 'dont sweat the small stuff' when the baby arrives, and I am trying to adopt that now to practice. Doesn't always work (I still have tantrums and crying fits), but I think I am getting better.

rachk2702 · 12/07/2013 10:08

I bloated like crazy! I had people asking when I was due when I was only 6 weeks goneHmm drink lots of water, but otherwise try and forget about it and enjoy yourself, remember that your body is doing something wonderful, and needs to go through a lot of changes to accommodate your little baby. Congratulations and enjoy your holiday Grin

misskatamari · 12/07/2013 14:44

Sorry you're feeling insecure - the early pregnancy bloating is horrible! I'm about 10 weeks and my belly and boobs feel massive already. Have you thought of trying a fifties style swimsuit? I always find them so flattering (I love for luna ones or have spotted this from M+S which i love Swimsuit - plus its tummy control!). I would try to speak to DH about how you are feeling - men just don't understand as times. Try to drink lots of fluids and hopefully you'll feel less bloated soon. Try to put your worries out of your mind and enjoy your holiday - and remember everyone is so worried about what they look like themselves they won't be paying the slightest bit of attention Smile

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