34 weeks - just want to cancel all evening plans....

[Queazy]

I think I'm being a bit of a wuss. Not sleeping so working early hours, so I can also avoid rush hour (or some of it). I commute into London, total of about 1.5hrs, and cancelled my evening plans this week as just too knackered. I have 4 dinners over the next two weeks after work, and just want to cancel, as not sure i can cope with getting home at 10:30/11pm. It would mean not seeing at least two sets of friends before baby is born. I'd feel really rude, as they kindly suggested these nights out.

Anyone else overcommitted or finding themselves wanting to just curl up at home out of the heat? Not sure if I need to just suck it up i.e. it's not all about me!!
xx

I stopped going out in March, DD born mid June so you did better than I did to get to 34 wks.

I'd put yourself first and cancel. You will be able to see them once the baby is here....

Thank you - I know it sounds a bit spoilt but I feel sulky that I'm too tired to go out, but can't think of anything I'd rather not do than spend an evening trying to stay awake while watching people quaff wine. Hello hormones xx

Be honest with them, the heat, lack of sleep, extra weight you are carrying etc is all just too much and you cant do late evenings. If they are good friends they should understand. You could always suggest a coffee at a weekend instead if you feel you could manage it.

Its hard work growing a new little person, mentally as well as physically.

I understand. I am 35+4 and have told DH hat I'm not doing anything in the evenings that isn't within easy walking distance of our home, and not putting anything new in the diary from now until baby. I need some sofa time!

Gosh just stay at home! It is too hot to be very pregnant. Poor you.

Cancel, hon!! I am 35 weeks on friday, and I have been very active all the way through, even with severe 'morning sickness' coming along for the ride, and anaemic etc etc. Anyway, I was determined to power through, and DH is away Mon to thurs most weeks, so I carried on with working from home (so no commute I know) but doing all the cleaning, washing, ironing, cooking, shopping on top etc - DH was furious each week when he got back and found this had been done again, so eventually I relented and he did the shopping and hoovering etc.

Well I don't know if this had an impact, but I went into early labour last week, and have only just come out of hospital and am now on total bed rest. I am fully effaced and trying to get baby to 36 weeks. I wish I had slowed down and not felt 'guilty' lying in bed watching Midsomer Murders etc - just seems so silly now. If you are tired it is your bodies way of telling you to ease up - and it is the only time in your life you have a really decent excuse, anyone would understand. And decent mates will offer to come to you to see you, in your own home, if you feel up to it anyway. So take my advice, go home, bunker down with a box set and bath and enjoy the land of nod. Also- you say it isn't all about you - but it is, you and your little cargo - and too right it is. xx

Cancel! It's not worth the exhaustion.

Can your friends not come to you? I'm 32+6 and have planned a 'last night out' with my friends for next Friday, ten mins away from home.

I've told them that I may well be up for going out after that but if not they are welcome over for a cup of tea any time :).

Cancel. This is what weekends are for. I'm 26 weeks and am on my second sick day because I'm knackered.

Growing babies is hard!

queazy cancel evenings and suggest a weekend or lunch if you get to take one maybe? I had to give up work early on due to various things so it makes things a bit easier for me but the girls are right you cone first.

I would also cancel the lot. The thought of four nights out in two weeks, esp after an early start and no sleep, while quite heavily pregnant and still working, would not be at all appealing to me! It's OK to be 'selfish' when you are pregnant and have young children. In fact you definitely should be when your wellbeing is at stake! You can always do a nice leisurely lunch on a Saturday instead.

Im 32 wks and know what you mean.
If they're just normal nights out then I'd either cancel or take the car and say beforehand that you're only staying an hour or so to say hello.
If they're nights specifically for you / to see you and wish you well then make sure you organise them somewhere sitting down and relaxed with nibbles - not a standing/drinking type bar.

You have the perfect excuse to cancel! I remember feeling the same, we went out for a meal with dhs family for dhs birthday when I was 38weeks. I felt exhausted and huge and didn't enjoy it but put on a front for dh. I think I cried when we got home because I was so tired! Don't put yourself through anything unnecessarily.

Can they make the dinner (or order take out) and bring it and themselves to yours?

I think that is prefectly resonable, and if they are your friends of course they will understand. Warn them beforehand how tired you are nowadays so thye know you'll be falling alseep on the sofa sometime shortly after your dinner.

i really feel for you and i am only 27 weeks!

am working full time and really struggling in the evenings. DH suggested a drink and dinner last night and looked really dejeceted when i said no - have 3 nights of entertaining this week and couldn't face another.

it's tough as i want to still socialise whilst i can before the baby comes, but it is really draining.

next week i have 3 dinners booked in and i already feel exhausted looking at them.

Honestly just do whatever you feel like, if you are too tired then you are too tired! Stay at home