Sudden huge panic about being pregnant and being a parent...am 27 weeks. Normal?!

[Kelly1814]

I was sat in a meeting today and felt as if I could feel my uterus/ the baby pushing into my lungs. It made me feel claustrophobic and panicked.

Then started thinking about fact that in a short while I will have an actual baby. And be a parent.I'm an only child who has little experience of children and never held a baby. Was always adamant I would never have children.

This pregnancy has been v stressful and high risk and in and out of hospital, so have been stressed before, but this feels more overwhelming.

I live in a country where maternity leave is very short and today my MD started talking about me being back at work 2 months after having the baby. It made me feel very out of control, we haven't planned anything, or talked about childcare, or anything when the baby comes. Partly because for a while we weren't sure if the baby would make it, partly I think as I haven't actually felt this was real. ( ridic I know)

Is it just pregnancy hormones? have cried at the drop of a hat these last few weeks which isn't like me.

Feel free to tell me to get a grip. Feels like I need it.

I got exactly the same thing right at the start of third trimester,I think its perfectly normal.

It'll help you feel more in control if you've got some things organised though,so look into childcare, make a list for your hospital bag - that sort of thing.

You're about 8 weeks ahead of me and I'm starting to get the fear again too !

I know what you mean about worrying that baby won't make it too. In a similar situation... It takes a long time to get to grips with the fact that soon you'll have an actual baby! Sounds like its sinking in :)

Thank you for the reassurance :) I am starting to feel like I am a) crazy b) destined to be a shxt parent.

It's deff only just started to sink in. Have had no real bump, only told work last week, and no had suspected a thing...all of a sudden am public property and being barraged with a million questions from people that I really don't have the answer to!

I am a planner by nature so the lack of control does not sit comfortably. You are right, I do need to start getting organised....

Lists. You need lists :)

Buy something as well. Get some sleepsuits and wash and fold them and put them in the drawer. Little things like that.

It still won't actually sink in until your baby is several months old though :)

lol ive been getting 'oh fuck!' moments too. 32wks today and still not bought anything i am useless at motherhood already

actually was in tears other night in bed to dp about how worried i am about what will happen to my fanjo after giving birth, my wobbly belly, not being able to have sex for a while after and the actual being a mum bit. someone tell me this is normal!!

Normal :)

(and your fanjo will return to normal!)

Thank god! I have been crying asking will our lives be over, will we ever have sex again ( not been able to since feb as have cervical stitch) I just don't feel like myself and worry will never feel sexy or attractive again.

I feel like this at 41 weeks!

I had an actual panic attack the night before I was induced (I didn't know I was being that day as it was an emergency) when I remembered how painful labour was. The baby crushing my lungs made me feel claustrophobic too and I just couldn't breathe, I wasn't due until 17th July but had him 3 weeks early so am glad it's over and it's definitely worth it.