So my mother just informed me ...

[AnythingNotEverything]

... That my bump wobbles when I walk.

I'm hot, tired, have lost my appetite, bored at work, and feel like the next 14 weeks (currently 26 weeks with DC2) are going to drag on and on.

I could probably have a weep if I wasn't so achey

God, mothers. Why are they like this? Does yours have form for this sort of thing?

OH lord how insensitive.

My dad said to me at around the same time "you really havent put on that much - maybe you were already carrying what you need?"

Thanks.

Fwiw I was a size ten til the 3rd tri and then went up to a 12.

Big hugs Everything. What a pants thing for her to say. I'm 37 weeks and feel like I'm wobbling everywhere! Plus the hormones are making me weepy and irrational 24/7. Oh and now I have bloody prickly heat. Does your mum have any wobbly bits you could comment on?!

I'm sure there's a class or something that parents take in "insensitive comments to make to your pregnant daughter". When I was 13wks - and therefore feeling self consciously chubby rather than glowingly upduffed - my dad announced loudly over lunch that "the problem with your stage of pregnancy is that you don't look pregnant, you just look fat". Jeez, thanks dad

for you, hope you feel better soon. And ignore your mum - you're growing a baby; you look beautiful!

She absolutely does have form! I had to politely remind her that if you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all.

Thanks for your kind words and similar stories. There's definitely some class/switch that allows parents to feel they can say anything to their kids, as if we're their property or something.

I'm very careful not to say anything of the sort to DS1 as he's a fairly sensitive soul already!

Ah. I suspected as much. If they didn't have form, it would be easier to brush off, wouldn't it.

Of course, here I am dishing out tea and sympathy and I would do well to remember your phrase too "if you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all" when dealing with my own mother.

Mothers! They do say all the wrong things. Mine was always commenting that I should shift the weight - I lost 3.5 stone (but not because she said so!) and she said o you look too thin

I'm now 23 weeks and all she can say is 'can you not wear something loose? Those tops are too tight!'

my mother is the same, she just says whats in her head. pita at times. couple months back in my pg when we were all at dp parents having tea and biccys my mum remarked after my 2nd biccy that 'its no wonder you are size you are'. erm, im not fat!? its a baby growing in there!! and shes obsessed with my weight, she asked me other day what weight i was saying 'you must have put a couple of stone on by now'. i actually havent put on 2 stone yet. but i dare say i will by end of it.

You'd think the fact that we were busy growing their grandchildren was enough to put up with and that they might try to button it for the duration...

Two days after giving birth to DC1, my dad looked at me and said 'When will your stomach go down?' He was just interested, but it was the wrong thing to say!

dont worry, my mums nickname for me was either pud which isn't too bad or she said I was a frigate which is a boat - thanks mum!
she also laughed when I couldn't fit through her teeny tiny dog gate and had to go through at a funny angle

I thought it was the mil that was supposed to be a pain?

Yesterday mine came out with a belter. She told me she would buy the cot for us but as we won't need it for a while (as borrowing a moses basket to start with) she will buy it just after the baby was born "because your granny lost her baby days after the birth and coming home to a fully-prepared babies room was so painful for her.....not that anything like that is going to happen to you of course".

Great, thanks Mum!