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pregnant with a toddler?

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mummykayxx · 04/07/2013 16:58

have a 2 year old. . not expecting yet but hopefully soon! just wondering if anyone else has or is pregnant with a toddler. What's it like? xx

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Summersun1983 · 04/07/2013 18:08

Hi mummykay
I am only 12 weeks and have a 2 year old, so far it has been very hard as morning sickness has been dreadful. i am a full time mum so i just have to get on with things, saying that though I really want this baby and am just trying to take it day by day.
You might be luck and sail through pregnancy without too many side effects but if you struggle like me then try to get as much help as possible from Dh and family. We kept the news quite till our scan on Friday so not had help yet but here's hoping lol
Good luck with ttc xx

MortifiedAdams · 04/07/2013 18:13

Im newly pg and dd is 19mo. I work fulltime shifts and am starting to get pretty tired. Thankfully dd still naps 12-2 so even if Im on a late shift, I can fit an hours snooze in before I start.

The MS hasnt started yet but I seem to have pernanent low level nausea.

TinkyPeet · 04/07/2013 18:16

I'm 37 weeks, have a 7yr old and a very difficult demanding 2yr old. I won't lie, at times it has been a nightmare and I have ended up in tears, but it depends on your toddler. I would say if she wasn't so difficult everything would be fine, and if I wasn't pregnant, she would still be just as difficult and I would probably feel the same. :)

Futterby · 04/07/2013 18:24

Just wanted to say, I only clicked this thread because my first thought when I read the subject line was "damn, that's a big baby."

PastaBeeandCheese · 04/07/2013 19:30

My DD is 19 months. It's tiring because you can't stop and have a sit down if you feel you need one. My friend's DS is the same age and she has just had her baby. I think she found it hard lifting and chasing after him at the end so I'm anticipating I will struggle with that too.

There isn't any time to sit around and think about the baby like there was the first time which is a blessing and a curse!

thegoldenfool · 05/07/2013 08:16

i am 33 weeks and DD is almost 2, I am a less good mum, I am tired, have less patience and can´t carry her as much as she would like

my DP is amazing though and picks up lots of the slack, including all her night time waking (still several times a night . . ) this means so much for all of us. I did read that DC1 copes much better after the birth of DC2 if they have a more balanced split between mum and dad.

my heart melts when unprompted she kisses the bump though

good luck :)

AllEyeEatIsCake · 05/07/2013 09:14

There are 17 months between my two. My eldest certainly missed out towards end of pregnancy because I was too tired and heavy to care for her 100%. My husband was amazing and it really brought the two of them closer together. The first three months of having two were really hard. When both children are crying you want to sit and cry too!

But now they are older and we have a good routine it is much better. Just treasure that saying "this too shall pass".

cantreachmytoes · 05/07/2013 09:26

I'm 37 weeks with a 20 month old. I just spent the last two months on bed rest. It had never occurred to me that that could happen (was lucky to have had no probes in first pregnancy). I'd say its worth having a vague idea of what your options are help-wise if you needed it. I wouldn't worry about it happening, but I think unless we've had problems in a previous pregnancy it just doesn't occur to us that there could be one and if a problem comes, it's urgent.

I would definitely do it again though, so not wanting to put you off, but I would a) take things easier and b) have a little idea of some backup in case it was needed.

3boys3dogshelp · 05/07/2013 12:37

I have 19 months between my first two. I am now 6 months preg again but the older boys are 3 and 4. So far (touch wood!) this pregnancy has been a breeze compared to last time, even though i have 2 to look after. partly because my boys are more easily entertained without me sitting on the floor to play, partly because they don't need to be carried or pushed in a pushchair anymore (horrendous spd last time) and partly because 1 is at school and 1 at preschool so I do get a bit of time to myself every week. Having said that although it was hard my 2 are best friends and we managed so I'm sure you could too.

Littleboyx2 · 07/07/2013 15:08

I have 2 boys, one almost 4, the other 19 months.
Due for c section Monday. It's been hard going as also was working full time up until last week. Nursery run was a challenge towards the end and carrying either of them. But nearly there now, you manage :)

Dackyduddles · 07/07/2013 15:12

Preg was fine til I couldn't see feet. Then it was just tiring. It's nice but v diff to first time. No indulgences this time!

It's been fine. Dd2 now 6mths. Not one fear or worry I held has come to fruition. Up to and inc would it damage my family, could I love another.

I ain't doin 3 tho

Fakebook · 07/07/2013 15:30

I'm 22 weeks and have a 5 year old and 18m old. I was fine after the morning sickness phase and was full of energy an running about until last week. I think the weather has slowed me down. It's not that bad though, I just find running up and down the stairs getting them both ready to go out a bit hard going now, and taking the pushchair out an into the car.

Beckmum4 · 07/07/2013 16:50

I got pregnant with baby number 3 when dd2 was 11 months old eecckk but hey we coped dd1 was 3,3months it's scary finding out your gaps going to be so small just 21months but it was ok hard at first but it's lovely now my kids get on so nice and the bottom two are similar age they like the same things. Honest be prepared for a few hard days but in a whole it's lovely xx good luck
I'm now 29. Weeks with out 1st ds and so excited it will be our largest gap of 4yrs 9months an frankly that scares me lol

Satnightdropout · 07/07/2013 17:01

I'm 37 weeks with a 2.5 year old and tbh haven't found it as exhausting as I thought it'd be. I found as longs I stayed on my feet and found plenty of stuff to do then the tiredness didn't affect me until I relaxed in the evening.
I'm not that big though so that's helping a lot as I haven't got a big bump getting in the way.
What I would suggest is anything you need to do with your toddler, do now. For instance, when I found I was due I immediately got toddler into a proper eating routine (he's always been in a bedtime and nap routine since birth so that wasn't a problem) and got him off the baby bottle. Still need to get him off the dummy but as the baby is only going to have one at bedtime and nap time then I'll do the same for him at the same time. So, maybe you could do the same if toddler has any vices along with transferring into a big kid bed" etc... .

Rowboat · 07/07/2013 19:50

Exhausting. All that relaxing you could do the first time; forget it. Im 16 weeks with a 23mo livewire. But she's so gorgeous and kisses my bump.

Rowboat · 07/07/2013 19:51

Yes, and my patience wears thin much quicker.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 07/07/2013 20:35

Just what rowboat said, really. I have 20 months between one and two and will have two years between two and three. It's hard work being pregnant, my hormones are making me lose patience more quickly with my two. Plus am exhausted!!

It's worth it though; I wouldn't change my small age gap(s) for ANYTHING. they are the best of friends (and enemies!)

PenelopeLane · 09/07/2013 09:42

I'm 28 weeks and have a 21 month old and have found that it is both better and worse than last time, although as a disclaimer, my pregnancy hasn't been too hard as have been very lucky . The hardest part was the first trimester as I'd sleep during his naps so on days when it was just me and him, I really felt like I had no down time whatsoever as I'd been used to his nap times as a chance to recharge my batteries. I def have less stamina too, and am more tired.

BUT, because of the extra tiredness, I think I am actually taking better care of myself in terms of going to bed early and not pushing myself too hard, I am also much more used to just mooching around home in the 'Burbs now whereas in my first pregnancy was much busier and went out 10x more.

I also have more regular meals with him, and not eating as much junk as he wants it too. Not having such fear and trepidation about what having a baby will be like makes it easier for me as well, as that was a big part of my first pregnancy.

That's just my experience anyway.

PoppyAmex · 09/07/2013 09:45

21 weeks, toddler is 15 months.

I'm tired, hot and my feet are swollen.

Breadrollsbuns · 09/07/2013 13:34

32 weeks with a 16 month old DS. I'm knackered and feeling major guilt for not being as good a Mum as I (hope I) normally am

crazyhead · 09/07/2013 16:23

23 weeks and 19 month old. Fine after the first 12 weeks. I work, which helps, and my son loves reading so if I'm tired I just read through about 1000 books while he shouts 'More! More!'

Longfufu · 09/07/2013 19:21

35 weeks with 2.5 year old, I'm exhausted!

Xmasbaby11 · 09/07/2013 21:13

DD is 18m and I am 12wk pg. I am sooo tired and less patient than normal. I work full time and feel like I have little energy at the end of the day for DD.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 10/07/2013 09:35

Just out of interest, how does working help?! Working is making it much harder for me, I reckon. Too many things to fit into my tiny brain!

joosiewoosie · 14/07/2013 07:45

I have just this morning found out we've conceived our 2nd, and our gorgeous little girl was 1 yesterday. I'll be following this thread with much interest for any top tips for managing 2!

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