Is it just me or is anyone else Going through this?

[shellandkai]

Ok I'm going to try and keep this short. Basically my problem is with the healthcare professionals.

Basically I'm 26 wks pg with my 2nd, my problem is that this pregnancy they seem to have some sort of idea (I have no idea why really) that I'm going to suffer from post natal depression.

Years ago WAY before I was even pg with my ds I suffered depression but didn't during or after I had ds. This pregnancy has been much the same as my last I've been happy and cheerful but I have to see a consultant my last visit to mw she wrote in my book to keep a eye on my moods etc.

My consultant wrote something along the lines of him thinking I may suffer from
Post natal depression. I have no idea why he would write that as the only thing I said to that was negitive was " I don't understand why I have to see you I'm perfectly fine my moods are fine I'm not depressed it was long ago in the past and the only thing that causes my moods to change is sitting in a waiting room for 3 hours to see you who I feel I don't have to or want to see with a bored 2 year old child" his reply was "you have no choice".

Is anyone else or has anyone else been through this? I didn't have to see anyone at all other than mw with my ds and don't understand where or why they have these stupid ideas or why I'm being made to see someone that I don't feel I should have to or want to. Can anyone shed any light on this please?

Im 39 weeks with my first baby. 6 years ago i lost a baby at 24 weeks and was diagnosed with depression and on anti depressants for 6 months.

Looking back i wasnt depressed i was greiving. At my booking in appointment my mw asked about my mental health and that of my family
. Because id suffered from depression previously and my mother used to suffer from depression she refered me to a psychologist at my hospital as apparently im at a higher risk of post natal depression.

Ive been dealing with the usual hormonal changes with this pregnancy and was very anxious for the first 24 weeks (which was when i lost my baby 6 years ago) but apart from that ive been fine. I actually refused to see this psychologist as it just seems absolutely ridiculous. If im feeling low after the birth then il obviously seek help but until then id rather just carry on being my normal happy self!

That's what I mean though I was never referred to anyone while I was pregnant with ds that was only (nearly) 3 years ago. I feel my state of mind is good I mean I'm actually happy and excited that I'm having another baby why would they make me see someone this time around I what I don't understand? And that when I refused I got told I have no choice why don't I have a choice? Why do they seem to presume I will have post natal depression this time around but they didn't they 1st time around? It's been 6 years since I last suffered with depression .

I wonder if maybe because it's topical that they're keeping an extra eye on people?
It does seem odd though, as I did have pnd and have been given an option to speak to someone if I want to, but not compulsory.

I'd question the "have to" bit tbh. You're entitled to know on what justifiable grounds, and would then question whether it really was mandatory, especially if being detrimental seems counter productive.

I suffer with anxiety and depression ans have all thru pg but the only reason pnd has been mentioned is cos I raised concerns. I would ask to speak to a diff consultant cos its not normal.practice imo xx

With myself, I just got the impression they were 'covering their backs'...in a way its good that they are trying to help women with post natal depression but i think by labelling a pregnant women so early on with the potential of having it

I did refuse the referral to a psychologist but still received the letter in the post from them!! Now every time my mw asks how im feeling at routine appointments i tell her im fine even though the night before id had a breakdown over a packet of sweets!

Like with most things in pregnancy it is your choice. You should never feel like you HAVE to do anything

You absolutely do have a choice and he sounds like an arse tbh! If you are confident that you or your family can spot your mood changes and will seek help if anything seems untoward then you are well within your rights to decline any extra 'help' for now. Perhaps have a word with your midwife and tell her you feel what she has written was wrong and you don't feel you should have been referred. X

I am having similar problems, treated for depression about 3yrs ago for a really short period of time. Off meds for over 2 years. Made the mistake of telling the midwife so I was put into c

Oops, stupid phone...

So yes, put into consultant care. Really don't need to be as I am totally fine PLUS I am a psychaitry doc myself so can spot the signs of problems. But they are still refusing to take me off cons led care. It's annoying because I want to give birth in a midwife led centre but can't because I am under a consultant. It's so frustrating!