Pregnant against medical advice - scared and confused

[kaymondo]

I've just found out I'm pregnant and am just at a loss as to what to do. This wasn't a planned pregnancy. I have 2 ds, both born by c section. When I had ds2 10 months ago the consultant came into see me in recovery and said my uterus was very thin and that I should "think very hard before having another child". I was upset at the time, but as he hadn't said it was an absolute no I just parked the whole issue, decided to enjoy ds2 and then get some further medical advice about the risks of having another if we got to the stage of thinking about it.

I've now found out I'm pregnant. My gp is writing to the consultant at the hospital to advise of my situation and to ask him to see me to explain the risks etc and what this means, but she seemed to very unequivocal about the fact that I def should be thinking about the children I have. Pretty much the first thing she said was express surprise that I was even considering proceeding with the pregnancy.

So I'm now in limbo waiting to see consultant for more advice and I know I'm then going to have a very difficult decision to make. I always wanted 3 children, so even though this baby is unplanned it is very much wanted. But can I risk leaving my sons motherless by proceeding with a risky pregnancy? I am in a bad way at the moment as my fear is that I am going to end up having to terminate this pregnancy and the thought is just heartbreaking.

There seems to be little information around on uterine rupture (as opposed to scar rupture) so really was just hoping for so e hand holding and to se if anyone knows anyone whose been through this and gone ahead with a pregnancy despite being advised against it ! Whether the outcome was good or bad.

Sorry this has ended up being really long, thanks for sticking with me.

I'll hold hands.

I had a massive rupture in my traumatic birth thanks to a woefully incompetent doctor. I only found out about it last month when we got the private obstetric report from the solicitor.

It advised not pregnancy for 3 years due to risks of re rupturing.

Had a BFP this morning.

I have no idea what to do.

You must feel so torn. I guess all you can do is wait for the consultant advice. Good luck, hand holding

Thanks both. Yoni ranger, hope you are okay, It must be even scarier for you having been through a rupture previously.

I think you need to hang in there until you see the cons, tbh.

There may be issues if you bleed and need lots of time in hospital. Maybe think of a list of questions to ask the cons.

I'm pregnant with my 4th and was advised after ky 3rd Not yo have anymore. 6 years later I fell pregnant unexpectedly and yes the drs have been negative but I decided to go through with it and I am now 35 weeks. I admit I am nervous and aware of every pain and twinge. Btw all my others were born by section and I have a thin uterus. Only you can decide what's best, but the drs are sometimes so full of doom!

Oh and when I have my section in 4 weeks they will he sorting my tubes out lol! I'm to bloody fertile :)

Hope it all goes okay for you greenj1. The one decision I have made at this stage is that if I have this baby I'll get them to do my tubes so I never have to go through this again! Guess the fact that you're 6 years on is helpful too, one of the reasons I'm so scared is because my last section was only 10 months ago which is a small gap even in normal circumstances. Must be going okay if they're letting you go to 39 weeks, good luck!

Just to update on this, since I posted earlier in the week I've exchanged emails with a private consultant who seems to be quite positive. He said his major concern would be more about whether the placenta implants into the scar tissue from my previous sections and they could check how my uterus was coping through scans from about 34 weeks to determine timing of delivery. I'm booked in for a scan and consultation with him when I'm 11 weeks, as by that time he can check placental position and we can decide how to proceed at that stage. He did say he would recommend a termination if the placenta has implanted into my scar and I want to talk to him properly about the rupture risks, but I feel better now I have an action plan (although I'm not sure how I'll get through the next 7 weeks). I know that if I have to make the decision to terminate at 12 weeks it will be a more traumatic procedure than an earlier termination now, but I think I will be able to make my peace with that decision more if I know i explored all of the medical options. I'm just trying not to get my hopes up too much, but its difficult.

Fingers and toes crossed for you

any updates OP as I’m in a similar situation?