"Did you mean to be so rude???"

[Cookiepants]

Hi all,

At work today a "lovely" co-worker felt the need to shout at top volume how massive I have got .

Apparently my 30wk bump is the same as her full term one, my legs have doubled in size, and she can't believe how huge I am. After this she said to another colleague "can you believe how huge THAT (meaning me not bump) is while making a disgusted face.

I know how big I am (does she think I'm blind?) I see it everyday, and actually due to ms and a pretty miserable pg so far I have actually gained less than a stone ( was big before) and thought however I look at least I haven't gained lots if weight.

I know I should have used the thread title, but instead I just had a little cry and haven't eaten since ( not good I know but I look at food and hear her voice). Shouldn't it be common knowledge that all you say to a pg woman is how beautiful she is?

Awful. I had "what's happened to you in the last week?" With a look of pure disgust whilst staring at me. Makes u feel awful. But she's the only one that's said anything like that to me. the sonographer at my 20 week scan said my bump and me were tiny. So I'm taking her word over the silly woman at work! You need to do the same, hard though isn't it!!

Dont let it get to you, either say something calmly to her about keeping her opinions to herself or report her to someone higher up. I have a bitch someone like this where I work who has been horrible to me since I started there last year (and has in fact been stressing me out all day today) and Im just waiting for the opportunity to tell her exactly what I think about her, trouble is she never says anything to my face just behind my back so never really get the chance. Anyway my point is do or say something soon, or she will just keep making these nasty comments. Just as everyone has different body types, tall, short, thin, curvy its the same when you are pregnant everyone carries differently so if your midwife is happy then however you look is completely natural and lovely for you and your baby.

I would second those suggesting to take it further. I work in HR and this type of thing should be reported (to your line manager or hr/personnel depending on your policies). She needs someone to at least have a quiet word with her about the appropriateness of what she is saying - there is being direct/blunt and there is being a bully.

I think the sweepstake is also very inappropriate if it's not something you are wanting - when I've been involved in a sweepstake it has usually been started by the pregnant individual themselves or a close colleague. I'm pleased the rest of your colleagues are mature enough not to join in but again I think this needs to be raised.

The woman is a category A twat. I really feel for you as it's only 7 months since I was pregnant and had at least 80 billion people ask me if I was having twins. In the end I used to say I was hoping to become the SE London Octomum. I was very hormonal and would fluctuate wildly from wanting to cry or commit homocide. Please eat your tea, she'll have won in her nasty campaign otherwise. She truly sounds like an arse. Keep thinking of BabyCookie and the lovely long mat leave you're going to have. and medicinal . Having said that, maybe a trip to HR is not a bad idea as she needs a good talking to.

Next time tell her to fuck off. Who gives a shit what she thinks anyway!

I just got 'you've got big' and 'hello fatty' from 2 people this morning. lovely. still bought the cake I went in for anyway. The thing is, I know I'm not even big! Why do people think it's normal to say that to someone. One of them has 2 kids of her own so I would have thought she might have had more tact.

I'm measuring bang on for dates and have been all the way through, have at last count only put on 9kg, and I still get the odd omg you are massive/are you carrying lots of fluid. I don't let it go though, I always say well actually am x weeks and measuring exactly x weeks. I don't care too much, don't get upset but hopefully next time they say something to a pg lady they will think twice.