Whats the chances of it happening again?

[FrillsandLaces]

I found out I am pregnant earlier this week. I had to have a medical termination in March because my son had severe Pelvic Renal Dilatation. I was 6 months pregnant, my son was born alive and lived for two hours. What are the chances of this baby having it too? Iv searched the internet but its come up with nothing. And ny midwife appointment isnt till the 12th.

Ill be 6 weeks pregnant on Monday ( which is my sons due date) I like to think this baby was sent by my son, and i hope he helps it stay healthy. Im absolutely terrified that this baby will die too. Im trying not to worry but i cant help it. Thanks for reading x

I can't answer your question, but nor could I read and run.

What a terrible time you've had. So sorry about the loss of your son .

I hope this time things work out for you

Thank you, so do I! It took my partner and I 2 years to conceive our son. We desperatly wanted him. Now im worried the same thing will happen again and I dont tink I could cope again xx

I actually think that if an Internet search comes up with nothing, the chances are that this is not likely to be a recurring condition. Because if it was likely, that fact would be well documented, if that makes sense.

Yes that makes.sense. I didnt think of it like that. Well i feel a bit better now! Thank you. All through out my pregnancy with my son I wasnt worried at all, I just assumed everything would be fine. Now every niggle and pain is making me panic. Thank you for replying x

Frills- what a terrible experience you've had. I'm so sorry.

It's completely normal to worry about every little niggle etc; not the same thing but I'm currently pg and posting on a thread for ladies who are pg after miscarriage. You can't just be naive and enjoy it anymore.

I'm so very sorry again for your loss and wish you all the very best for a healthy pregnancy this time

Thank you Black, your right - its just not the same is it. Its my sons due date today, my partner & I scattered some of our sons ashes ibn the local park. I thought I would feel better but i just feel so empty. Im so sorry for your loss & I hope this pregnqncy goes well for you too xx

My dd was stillborn and I worried too about the next pregnancy but the specialist assured me that it was very unlikely to happen again and if they had concerns judging by my experience they would have organised genetic counseling before you got pregnant again and after and had a plan ready and given you referral to the specialist pre natal care unit. Perhaps give your prenatal care unit a call and discuss your concerns- mine were quite willing to discuss things with me and tell me what to ask my gp to refer for.

Did you have follow up appointments to discuss your baby?

I really suggest you're honest about your fears with your midwife and request extra scans throughout for peace of mind. You may have to be quite forceful (shed some tears) as surprisingly I found a lot of midwives unsympathetic about my experience.

I hope all goes well for you, I'm holding my little man now!

Aw flanders. Sorry about your daughter x
. Yes when id given birth to my son we let the nurses take our bloods and a part of our sons umbilical chord. The results came back with nothing, they couldnt tell us why my son was so ill or what caused it. They said it wasnt genetic but if it idnt genetic then what caused it? I think its not having the answer thats mqking me so worried for this one.

Lol i dont think ill have to force some tears. I cry nearly everyday about my son. Hes my first & the first everything on my side. I miss him so much. Im trying to not get upset & stressed because of the new baby but its very hsrd. I was meant to have an early scan on friday but i cancelled because they cant tell if its going to have the same thing my son hadthis early.

At my 12 week scan they said he was perfect, but by the 20 week scan everything had changed. I just couldnt get my head round that he was dying, he seemed so healthy inside me but realisticly he was on life.support, i was the only thing keeping him alive.

Oh gosh, sorry to ramble. Its his due date today & im struggling a bit. My point for that paragraph was ill get a scan at 12, 16 & 20 weeks.

I hope so too, thank you. Congratilations on your little boy xx

I'm sorry to hear you're having a bad day. I know my telling you statistically you should have an uneventful pregnancy doesn't help but I wish you all the best- unfortunately I'm not sure your pain will go even when you have your new baby in your arms but you will certainly cherish him/her x

Unfortunatly I stated bleeding on Monday, I went to the hospital and a scan couldn't pick up my baby. It did show that my womb was thickening which shows its preparing fr a baby. A urine sample came up negative but my blood test came back positive at 125 hcg. The bleeding has gotten darker and heavier since Monday. Ive been back to the hospital today for another blood test, if my hcg levels are higher then the baby is ok but if their lower then unfortunatly iv lost the baby x

Frills - I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. Just wanted to say I am thinking of you and hope that everything works out for you. Take care xx

No advice but didn't want to read and run. So sorry for all that you've gone though, sending you lovely thoughts and I hope you sail through your pregnancy. Best of luck

Oh balls, just read your last post.

I'm so, so sorry for everything you're going through no experience but you're welcome to message me if you need to chat

Thank you. My head keeps telling me its gone and that's it but there's still a part of me saying its going to be ok. I'll just have to wait and see what the hospital says but from the signs its not looking good. I honestly thought this baby was a present from my son, as daft as that sounds. Its just awful x

Thats not daft at all Frills, you have been (and are still) going through an awful time. I really hope you get the news you want from the hospital xx

Thank you, I really want this to be ok. Its the waiting that's awful now, 5pm is a long time away at the minute x

Just thought id update :) midwife just rang and hcg has gone from 125hc to 400hcg so baby is still here :) I have a scan next week just to see if we can see sack and to rule out an ectopic pregnancy :) so relieved! Xxx

Oh, my fingers and toes are firmly crossed for you. So glad to read your last post.

Frills what a rollercoaster! I lost a baby at 25 weeks and know how hard it is to not have the same innocence and to be so afraid the next time around. Wishing you all the best. xx

Thank you :) im feeling a lot better now. Just fingers crossed the pregnancy continues to do well :) xxx

Im sorry about your baby expat, its a horrible experience and one I never want to go through again xx

Frills, I think the only way you can get through is one step at a time. You have every right to see a consultant and be kept a close eye on. The best of luck to you.