Some people can be really rude to a pregnant lady.
It's very annoying. You'll also get the nice comments. But some can be really......................................
Especially with my first child I got asked A LOT if it was planned.
First of all that's none of anyone's business. If it was unplanned and I wanted to share that with you that I'd let you know about it.
I've always looked very young and I had people even staring at me. That was terrible. Not only during pregnancy, also when he was a baby and toddler.
Even now that I'm almost 28 years. If I go shopping without my kids I still need to show my id when needed.
Thankfully I don't get stared at anymore. But that was so horrible. Some people are to stupid to understand that some woman are just really lucky and looking very young.
As if age or someone's look is an indicator that the person would be a bad mother.
If you'd judge someone on the color of his skin or where he/she comes from. Then you're a racist.
If you judge a pregnant woman on her age or young look. Then that seems to be alright. No problem!!!
I even got judged by some health professionals. That was so painful!
I never forget my first scan. I was only a couple of weeks and I felt terrible sick and I had a lot of pain. They wanted to check if it wasn't an ectopic pregnancy. My partner was also there and we were so nervous and hoping everything was ok.
I had the scan and everything was good.
What a relief. You couldn't really see a lot, because he was so small. (5 weeks pregnant)
I was looking at the picture, so happy that it was all alright.
That stupid woman from the scan. I don't know anymore why she said it. What had triggered her. But she said:
And all of the sudden you're pregnant.
On a tone and in a way clearly meaning that it was an accident.
I replayed in a very firm voice:
Well that didn't really went that quick. It took us 3 months to get pregnant. We had sex just about every night. We really worked hard for it and lost a couple of kilo's in the process of getting pregnant.
Her face! She was a bit shocked at my reaction
Shopping with my mum during my first pregnancy:
A shop assistant thought that my mum was the one who was pregnant. My mum:
She's the one who's pregnant, not my. This is just fat.
In another shop. This was a little shop with very nice fancy baby clothes, gifts and other stuff. That lady was so rude!!!
From beginning to the end totally unfriendly to me. Uninterested and gave me a clear vibe that she wanted me out of her shop.
I tried to be friendly to her and spoke about the pregnancy and my first scan. What a relief it was when we saw that everything was ok.
Her response:
Don't be too happy. You could still loose it.
That really was the last drop for me. I just turned around and left the shop. I never went back and although she had some really nice stuff. I never brought anything over there and told everyone I know how rude she was.