Putting off TTC because DH worried I will be house bound

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28 years old and I am desperate to start TTC.
DH also keen on having children but says he wants to wait a while because we won't be able to do normal stuff.

I asked him what he thinks is the normal stuff I will be incapable of as there is nothing in this year I have done that seems to be too difficult if I was pregnant.

I visit places, have the odd meal out. Go to the cinema, picnics, walks etc.

He seems to think I will be incapable of doing many of these things and it makes me feel like I will be under house arrest over the 9 months of pregnancy.

I keep telling him that of all the people we know that have had babies, that they all do normal things most of the time.

Am I wrong?
Is pregnancy going to make me house bound?

You say your Dh wants children too, just not yet - do you know how long he wants to wait? 28 is still young - you have plenty of time. How long are you willing to wait? Personally I was not ready for kids at 28, but luckily neither was Dh so it was an easy decision and we had our first at 33.

I agree communication doesn't sound great Is he like this generally?

Oh, and although pregnancy didn't stop me doing any of the things you mention, having a baby / young children has changed my life massively and it does have a big impact on some of the things we used to do as a couple.

He is making excuses. With my first pregnancy I was walking on average 6 miles a day right up to the day I went into labour. I did a food shop whilst in labour.

You need to have a heart to heart.

Find out his fears. Often the thoughts are worse than the reality.

Do you know any men who have kids who could talk to him positively about becoming a father?

Does he realise how badly you want a baby? It sounds like he's making excuses because he's scared or because he doesn't want to be forced into it. You can't have this kind of chat logically, it has to be about emotions. So he might find it hard but tell him how much it means to you to work through it.