Haha, I was wondering what giggle risk was! I was like 'hmmm, haven't heard of that condition before!'
I am eligible to use the NHS, anybody in the UK whether a tourist or resident is. I know this from my previous experience living in London (2003-2005), the NHS is fully universal, so if you're in the UK, even visiting, you're allowed to use it, unless it's gotten more strict since then?
My personal experience with the NHS was a few dr's just really overworked and not having the time for me. When my depression first began I went to get some anti-depressants and the dr asked no questions about what was wrong or what had happened, just wrote me a script for Prozac stating 'because you're American and Prozac is popular over there.' ????!!!! I was young when I was there though (22-24) so wasn't really good at speaking up, I am much more of an advocate for myself now and will ask advice on what GP to choose, research, etc.
We have a couple of friends living there now with new babies, one has had a good experience, happy using the NHS. The other almost died giving birth when she lost a lot of blood and the hospital had NO blood to give her (she has a universal blood type so could have had anything, but the hospital had nothing). Scary!
I went public here with our daughter in December, with her birth/death and all the appointments that followed everyone has been amazing to us, the care has been wonderful. But while I was pregnant I just kind of felt left on my own. Besides your 12 week scan and a visit with your GP nobody sees you until closer to 20 weeks. We have gone private with this pregnancy and already, only 8 weeks in, the prenatal care is vastly different.
I can't remember who wrote it above, but your experience with NHS is pretty much why I don't want to use it for this pregnancy (ie never the same midwife, long waiting times, etc). Having a set appointment time is optimal as DH and I are pretty set on him coming to all appts. I was by myself when we found out Clementine died (it was a routine appt that had been booked for weeks, I wasn't even meant to have a scan so we saw no reason for him to come) the OB I saw ended up having a scan machine and said 'let's just have a quick look' and I got all excited that I was going to get an extra look outside our 20 week scan that was booked a couple days later. She couldn't find a heartbeat and Clem wasn't moving, she had probably died a week before. That hour of waiting for DH to get there was awful, I suspect more for him because I had a midwife and social worker comforting me whereas he was stuck in a cab trying to keep it together while the driver chatted about whatever. After that experience we've decided he'll be at every appointment so a long wait when he has to get back to work wouldn't be ideal!
I thought as much with the c/s. I figured maybe most women don't go private unless they are having a c/s so maybe that was why the OBs speak so much of it. I am actually a doula, so have a lot of experience with birth and birth choices, but after loosing Clem all my confidence and any ideals I had have flown out the window! I kind of have an attitude of 'do whatever you have to do to get this baby out alive!' But deep down I know a VB is optimal and safer so still feel I should be encouraged for one. Who knows what I will decide though.
You ladies have been really wonderful and making me a little less frightened about moving over! I will look into more of the OBs today!