NCT group and socialising

[Soontobemama]

Or lack of in this case. We only have one class left and so far nobody has made any moves to arrange any meet ups. We do a lot of group work during the classes but there's no real chances to chat and get to know people.

The only reason I signed up was because I'd heard about the great social life everyone seems to have with their NCT group. I'm not finding the information particularly useful as I've done a lot of reading already this pregnancy. I chose daytime classes too in the hope people would want to do something after but they all seem to dash off the second the class is over.

I am hoping to pluck up courage to ask if people want to go for a drink after the last class but am a bit worried that maybe the rest of the class are not interested in socialising.

For those of you who have already done NCT when did your class socialise if they did at all?

Thanks for the replies - I feel reassured now.

I thought that our tutor would have facilitated us meeting up a bit sooner but nothing was really mentioned. It looks like I will have to take the lead.

at my last class our leader arrange our coffee mornings for us. Basically just said "what day of the week do you all want to start getting together" and we started meeting. We also set a reunion dinner for a month after our last ladies due date.

What NaturalBlonde said upthread. We didn't socialise until after the run of classes: at the last one, someone suggested coffee the following week for those ladies who'd started mat leave already and the others joined as they finished work. We also set up a private Facebook group and after the first few weeks of availability checking set on a standing weekly coffee day/time/location which we adjusted as necessary.

The teacher facilitated a "reunion" (based on her diary) for 6 weeks after the last due date in the class. We still do these including all the dads now at Christmas and Birthdays (minus teacher) and they now include DC2s!

I would second being proactive, not just with/at this group but at other baby groups, PN exercise classes, whatever you do: a bright "anyone fancy a coffee?" after a group has led me to meet my closest "mummy" friends (DS1 is now 2). And don't take it personally if people need to rush off to feed/change etc, try again next time.