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Tell me about your plans / experiences with going into labour with DC2+

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jennimoo · 21/06/2013 07:16

Our parents are over 2h away so should be with us within 3h, and a few friends locally have offered to step in but DD doesn't know them that well and I don't know if I'd want to call them in the middle of the night.

We have a childminder although she's on holiday for 2 weeks from 38-40 weeks... Are they sometimes up for being on call? I will ask but like to know what other people have found works / doesn't work, and its beginning to stress me out a but now!

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HumptyDumpty2 · 21/06/2013 07:36

We have neighbours we're close to that DD1 is going to if we have to leave immediately (we did with her) then her aunty is picking her up from there. She's an hour+ away so wanted a back up!!

mamachelle · 21/06/2013 09:35

we are expecting dc4 in four weeks and although our friends and family are at the furthest only half hour away its still massively stressful worrying about them.

i dont know how many weeks you are but is there time for you to take dd to your local friends houses or have your friends over to you before baby arrives so dd gets more familiar with them?

something else to consider, would your local friends sit with dd at your house or at theirs?

if its at your house then she will have her home comforts at her finger tips if she is awake. If you need to go to the hospital in the night and your friends come to listen out for her then the chances are she wont even wake up until your parents are there anyway.

mamachelle · 21/06/2013 09:41

doh! posted too soon!

was going to say, dont worry about it too much if you can.

i found that once i had talked to friends, family, school and nursery i personally had all my bases covered. i also felt more relaxed when i had written a contact list and our schedules down and stuck it on the fridge. Every1 has their instructions and knows the drill now lol

good luck

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jennimoo · 21/06/2013 11:27

Thanks for the ideas. I have started a calendar of what she does when and plan to list her rough routine and what she needs to take to different places she might go.
I'm but really worrying too much, I'm site it'll work out, just don't like the uncertainty!

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jennimoo · 21/06/2013 11:28

And I'm 30 weeks, so plenty of time for friends to visit etc, although DD was early!

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mamachelle · 21/06/2013 13:32

i totally agree with the uncertainty! i like to know and be in control of everything and really wish babies would arrive within a set time frame lol

good idea for the calendar! maybe you could add friends/parents work schedules on there too for your partners benefit? at least he wil know who to call and when. my dh doesnt know anything like that so iv added little notes next to names, am sure he wil hate me 4 it :)

ooh, maybe another early baby then! how early was your dd?

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jennimoo · 21/06/2013 14:00

DD was 9 days early, so not a lot but makes the chances of an early one much higher!

We are going to have a sort of 'Rota' of who gets called so there's no question, mostly as I think the grandparents would compete to be the ones to get to come!

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jennimoo · 21/06/2013 14:02

DD was 9 days early, so not a lot but makes the chances of an early one much higher!

We are going to have a sort of 'Rota' of who gets called so there's no question, mostly as I think the grandparents would compete to be the ones to get to come!

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BoysRule · 21/06/2013 14:06

I found it the most stressful thing about having DS2 - who would look after DS1!

My parents were 2 and a half hours away, friends nearby, but like you I felt that DS1 didn't know them well enough. I really felt that it was going to be a stressful enough time for him anyway without the added possibility of being dumped on a stranger.

DS1's childminder offered to have him - she was really nice and it meant that I didn't have to ask.

As it turned out, I went into labour when my parents were staying to look after DS1 while we went to a wedding. I was 38 weeks. I had bad cramps all week and as soon as my parents arrived and we set off my waters broke. I truly think I held on until they were there as I was so stressed about it. DS1 had no idea as we were going away anyway - although I now wonder if he thinks you always come back from a wedding with a baby!

I do think that things have a funny way of working themselves out.

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jennimoo · 21/06/2013 14:16

Boys rule that's a fab story :) I think you're probably right that your body waits for when you can relax. I'm going to ask the CM and might ask the 2 sets of grandparents to come down for a couple of days the 2 weeks she's away 38-40 weeks!) as at least they could take DD out for a few hours each day, so I can rest!

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