lilmummy:;need some ones help, please. xxxx

[666mummy]

im 40wks prgnant and fed up my hormones are everywhere and feelin quite down in myself, not prepared to be a mum i dont think and i would like some advice on how to get my labour started?!?!?! as u can tell im in a 'tis'i think i just need a bit of reassurance which i dont fink im getting at the moment. please write back if u have any advice wot so ever. thanx x x x

i think i remember hearing harvery nicholls and marks and spencers gave you vouchers too.

well im still waiting!!! he hasnt came yet doing lots of exercises to get him in position, but nothings shifted yet lol. dont want the membrane sweep tomorrow :(

thanks, everyone on this thread some great advice im glad im not alone.....
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Nothing much new to add cos there's already some great advice here but a shag and bending down to get a dish out of a low cupboard seemed to do it for me!

And just remember this is what we are designed to do so labour and birth is nothing to be scared of. In fact, it can be one of the best experiences of your life so try to enjoy it and even if it does seem hard, remember that each contraction is bringing your baby closer and you never have to experience that contraction again.

All the best! xx

my advice is don't get coerced into anything you're not comfortable with- sweeps , induction etc. babies come when their ready! midwives mean well but they're so focussed on the due date- scan's don't predict the dd that accurately anyway - i don't think they realise how much pressure it puts on you! both my kids came 2 weeks late according to scan and i felt as though someone was standing over me with a watch.. anyway i held out against pressure to induce it was very emotional but in the end had both at home no drugs or interventions. midwife told me they induce at term(ie due date from scan)+12 days as standard practice.. not sure how this teaches them anything about variations in womens gestation periods!
don't worry too much about position of baby they can turn around in labour you can help by getting on all fours with your bum in the air! above all remember your body knows how to do this you just need to find ways of dealing with the pain- remember each contraction only lasts 30 to 60 seconds- find positions that work for you and try to stay cheerful it relly helps! good luck! xxx

ive had 3 since june '03 and the last is only 4 months, so i know where youre coming from believe me!
tips? um..

think about how nice it'll be to have your body back to yourself, sleeping on your back, going to the loo a reasonable number of times a minute, etc

think about how nice it'll be to finally get a look at, and cuddle with, your baby once theyre out

sleep if you can now. prob cant as too restless, but try.

the sleep deprivation which follows birth of number 1 will make things a little hazy, and you'll be learning so much for the first few months that you may not be very good at coherent adult conversation for a while, dont let anyone make you feel your brain is fried, its not that, its just that you are doing the most difficult, complex, overwhelmingly wonderful and rewarding, occasionally overwhelmingly responsible, and many other things, job in the world, under sleep deprived to the point of torturous conditions and that takes a little adjusting to.

on the up side of the sleep thing, you wont remember any of the hard stuff after about 6 months

holding your baby when theyre sleepy is THE most delicious sensation in the world.

trust your instincts on birth matters. personally i'd go for water birth every time, but do what you reckons right for you.

birth, however you do it, is to be enjoyed at least for the its-al-about-you for a while factor. milk it. get people (inc dp) running around after you and making all sorts of promises. fun to be had there.

use mumsnet to get whatever support you need.

good luck >

hehe, thanx everyone for the advice, i think although im fed up with the restless sleep and swollen ankles its actually my partner who wants the way out of me more than me, if that makes sense?! so he can get a bit of control back, yesterday i had a membrane sweep to get things moving purely because of my partner, it was horrible to all the ladies out there whos had one will know, its intrusive, and hasnt worked yet either, just left me in crippling pain in my back and stomach, believe me i did think last nite i was in labour but only judging by the pain, if i dont go into labour by wednesday i could have another sweep then im going to have a date set to be induced :( its not how i planned it and better still not how i would do it if i had my say in this. was that a moan, sorry...

er... if u cant moan now, i dont know when you can!
and try not to worry about needing induction etc. its not how anyone plans it and i feel for you, i really do, but in the end the most important thing is to have healthy and happy baby and mum and thats what you'll have in no more than ooh, a week from now? exciting isnt it?

good luck sweetie

nappies galore: thank u x x x

my last message is supposed to say my partner wants the baby out of me more than i do!?!?!?