Morbid, I know, but I can't be the only one...

[Dolallytats]

I hope I'm not the only one, but I can't help worrying about dying in/after childbirth. I know the risks are low, but the thought of leaving my other children without a mum makes me anxious about it.

I do tell myself not to be silly, but the thoughts do creep in sometimes. Does anyone else think like this too?

I was trying to put across the point that if it took a turn for the worst how amazing the staff are at helping and that they are prepared for everything.

When I was on here looking for advice for the same thing couple of years ago I found it very helpfully when Iwas told the same!

For instance, not many people know that if you die in childbirth (of in any other circumstance) and are not married then your estate is subject to inheritance tax.

Sorry, I really don't think that this is true. It is true that if you aren't married and have no will then any inheritance will go to the woman's parents and not the father of the child, but inheritance tax laws would remain the same. The child may also be able to inherit in these circumstances. A death is a death however it happens and there would still be a £325,000 threshold for inheritance tax.

An effective way to reduce fear and increase your chances of a positive birth experience is to read some positive birth stories from other women.

Have a look at this link if you're interested link

I'm not "mental" lavenderloves . There's really no need for insults here on mumsnet.

You came on to tell us we needed counciling, you think we wear our birth stories as a badge of honour. If you don't like it, don't start it.

I can ASSURE you that my birth story is not worn as a badge of hour it was horrific and could i opt to change it i would.

I didn't even go into half of the problems.

For your information, i read many books on positive painfree births, attended hypnotherapy courses and would have liked a water birth. No amount of positive reading or stories changes what you get.

You don't get to choose!

Exactly lavender.

Everyobe needs to be prepared not to have the perfect birth. I had 3 beautiful straight forward labours just so happened the next one wasn't.

I certainly dont brag about my bad one.

I think to let the op realise that if the worst happens then she will be fine, so just to show there is no need to worry about death when we have experience horrible situations and came out the other end and go on to have more babies.

I really do appreciate you all telling me your experinces because it does reassure me that, if things don't go to plan, it doesn't have to end in the worst possible way.

I also appreciate the stats, they are also reassuring.

Thank you all.

Don't worry!! But you've just given my idea of the worst birthing experience!! Can't swim, so even a waterbirth is my idea of Hell and I don't like the 'woozy' gas and air....I might keep the candles if that's ok though!!!