Time apart, when is it ok?

[Nellysgirl]

Sorry to lower the tone and bring up celebrities but I can't resist to see what opinions are about... The Rooneys.
Have just learned that father Wayne is currently on lads holiday and mum colleen on night out. New baby is maybe 3 weeks old? Is this considered ok?
My DP nipping off for trip abroad to watch boxing whilst I'm 25 weeks pregnant and I felt a bit sad he wanted to go but now learning this of the Rooneys I'm wondering is this all the norm? X

My DH has a lads night out booked in two weeks after my DD is due as he is going to a concert and I'm not happy about that and its only an hour away so no chance I would be letting him go away x

What's your concern? As long as the kids have a competent baby sitter, I'm sure all is well. Life doesn't stop when you have a baby - you are still allowed a social life you know!

I have friends who had a baby free weekend away when child was 12 weeks old and know of some who don't have so much as a cinema trip until their kid is two. Whatever works for you.

Perfectly OK, as lolidayplanning says, whatever works for you.

depending on when our baby arrives, my other half will be going to a concert about 2 hours away, 4 weeks later. i have no problem with this, i would actually really like to join him!

good friends of ours have a set up where they each get to have a separate holiday each year, on their own or with friends aswell as a family trip.

i am all over this.

Each to their own as loliday says.

I would be happy for my DH to go away for a concert overnight or away for a few days with the lads too. To me that translates as quality time with my baby while I plan my night off/trip away when he is back!

Although truthfully I don't know if I'd leave my LO for several days because I'm addicted to my bump as it is, I'll be obsessed when DD actually arrives!

It's difficult to say until in that situation - my mum never left us with anyone. Ever. She had serious trust issues. It meant that she lost all her friends and her former life, so me, being the youngest, became her only real friend. Which meant she kept me close and I was never allowed out to parties or clubs, even at 17/18 years old.

I don't want to do that to my child, so perhaps it's a bit better to start as you mean to go on, and allow a bit of freedom.

As YD said, as long as you have a competent babysitter, what's the harm?!

Sorry for overshare of slightly traumatic childhood lol

I don't think it's the norm (not among people I know anyway) but the Rooneys have more money than they know what to do with, family help, paid help, and Colleen doesn't breastfeed.

Most people with limited funds, limited help, an especially if you breastfeed won't be having loads of time away from their newborn.

I don't know any women who weren't tired, bleeding, leaky and hormonal within a month of having a baby, so nights out at expensive restaurants weren't a priority

DH and I went out for dinner two weeks after dd arrivd, dd stayed with my parents for the three hours we were gone.

when my dd was 5 weeks old my dp went away for the weekend to Newquay for his birthday , I managed fine :)