Any idea where my sex drive is?

[LadyMedea]

Ok, so I'm 15 weeks pregnant and have zero interest in sex. Not DTD since we made this baby. OH is being very understanding but I feel sorry for him. My sex drive is very hormonal and normally tied to ovulation so I'm not that surprised but had secretly hoped it might go the other way .

Is there a magic libido return like the books say or is this it?

Not sure where yours is but haven't seen mine since Easter. I'm 30 weeks and was just thinking I probably won't be thinking about it again for at least another 6 months. Luckily DP is so knackered from work and our other DD that it's not a huge problem. However I do sometimes think that we should make an effort as the longer it goes on the easier it is to live without and I would hate to think of having a sexless relationship for the next 20 years!

I'm 6 months now and totally understand where you're coming from. My interest in sex totally vanished for the first 4 months (when I felt like shit the whole time) and we barely DTD at all. I felt SO guilty about my poor OH!! The last 2 months though, well, though it's getting pretty awkward and uncomfortable (bump in the way, back pain etc) we do have sex on the weekends* and I love it, even if I totally don't feel like it to start with and I have to say it's the best sex we've ever had... definitely quality not quantity . And what I like doing in bed has totally changed as well because e.g. my boobs are now super sensitive (in a good way!). We've been really careful to communicate a lot about everything as well, which I think has helped - sometimes he's worried about hurting me, sometimes I can't get into it because I'm being distracted by the baby kicking (!). So, my advice would be to just give it a go even if you don't feel much like it because you might discover you fancy doing it again, even if don't suddenly turn into a crazed wild sex fiend .

*we would definitely have it more often if we weren't both working full time - we just went away for a couple of weeks ago and DTD almost every day. Ahhhh the magic of holidays .

I lost my sex drive after I hit the 20 week mark!
It just dissapeared, which was slightly disappointing! I was expecting to be some raging sex lunatic like they say in the books, but I was completely the opposite and felt really put off. I ended up getting a stitch, no position felt right, I'd be too uncomfortable. In the end, i've given up.
Now at 34 weeks, I don't even think about sex. Luckily, DP is very understanding.

Relax about it. The more worried you're about it, the least your changes will be of finding your sex drive.

If you find yours can you ask if it's seen mine please? The mind is willing but the body ain't able - it gets mentioned, we agree to it, i then think about how uncomfortable i'll be and how i've just got the baby settled in my belly (32 weeks, she may as well be here now as i plan my life around her naps!) Or sometimes from nowhere at all i'll go uch good god no it's messy i'll sweat and i cba having a shower no sex here please.

For me the first sign of pregnancy was total loss of interest in sex (about 2 days before my period would've been due). But the minute the babies popped out I was rampant! Had to wait a few weeks but very frustrating!

Mine has vanished too! A weeks holiday did rekindle things but since getting home I can't be bothered at all! I'm 20 weeks tomorrow and thinking I may need to make a bit more effort lol

If I could like this post, I would :p 16 weeks and I want my sex drive back!

Ah mine disappeared sporadically through pregnancy including feeling rather ahem, dry (sorry TMI) at various points. I am now 32 weeks and it has returned with a vengeance just as I am getting big enough to make it tricky!!
I had an understanding DP but at times did think...but what if it never comes back...now I am sure it will but only at inconvenient times!

helena I'm exactly the same!