MIL help!

[MsLadyLove]

My mother in law wants to look after my daughter while I'm in labour. I really wanted.my mother to do this but I thought I should really include dp's family so they feel involved.
So I agreed for MIL to have my 2 yr old with her at my house. Now she is saying she wants take my daughter to her house which is 40 min drive away from us. I told her I wasnt happy but she is insisting. Last thing i want to do is be worrying about my 2 yr old while im in labour. My mum literally lives next door (MIL doesnt know this. Long story) and id want her to be with her but dont want to offend. Pls help

I would probably stay quiet then tell mil after the fact that you didn't have time to call her and your mum was there.

If you want to bring it up I would say that you want your dd looked after at home and if she can't do that then you will get someone else to look after her.

Just tell her no, or get DH to do it. She looks after DD where you want, or you will get someone who will.

You dont think im being silly? I just want my daughter closeby

I don't think you are being silly. Just say you want the least upheaval as possible for your daughter and your Mum has offered if it is a problem keeping her at your house (in her own surroundings).

I don't think you are being silly.

Tell her she has two choices: she can look after DD at your house, or your mum will look after her. If she is still in disagreement do what Lemon said and tell her that sorry, everything happened quickly and your mum was already there.

Is she the sort of person who would agree to look after DD at your house but then take her anyway?

Am intrigued about the mum secretly living next door story!

You are not being silly. Your DD needs to stay in her routine.

You are not being silly. Your DD needs to stay in her routine.

Of course you're not being silly. I'd want my DC at my own house as well. You need to say "thanks for the offer but my mum has agreed to have her at our own house. So kind of you to try and help but this is better for us."

My DP's side of the family are very strange and get jealous very easily. We moved from London to my mums area which was just about ok with them. If they knew my mum was living next door they would be insanely jealous. They didnt like me at first because they felt i was taking them away from dp, now they cant get enough of me. Its like playing chess with a bunch of snakes most of the time.

Just tell them you had already arranged for your mum to look after your dd and if they don't like it they can lump it. Simple. Your daughter your wishes. They might be a bit put out but at the end I the day they are adults and will have to learn that your wishes on this situation matter a bit more than theirs do! X

Bloody hell they sound ridiculous. Put your foot down firmly and explain as suggested by others about routine, DD not feeling pushed out, etc. It will only get worse if you allow it.

Yes im putting my foot down. Always about them. Makew me angry. Thanks guys x

NU at all,your DD will want to be visiting the you and her new DB/S and you in hospital and be maybe come to the H to 'bring' you both home,she needs to be part of the new babys life as soon as possible,not left out.

MiL should be helping at your house or not at all.

Anyway,if she's off with MiL,how will she get the special present the baby brings her?

Ach well,she'll find out soon enough where your Mum lives unless your Mum plans on hiding indoors with the cutains drawn while MiL is there.