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worrying myself sick about work

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amie28 · 14/06/2013 08:09

I work nights as a carer do 2 12 hour shifts aweek which usually don't bother me but I'm 9 weeks at the moment and suffering from every symptom under the sun think I'm also anemic just waiting on blood test results. Anyway I'm at work this weekend sat and sun night even though I asked for my shifts apart. I really don't feel I can do my shifts this weekend especially with them being together and don't know what to do I darent ring work either (daft I know) I'm making myself feel worse with worry

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Chickpea1983 · 14/06/2013 08:15

Hi Amie. What is it that you think work will say or do that makes you worry?

HystericalParoxysm · 14/06/2013 08:16

If you really can't do your shifts you have to ring work.

Gerty1002 · 14/06/2013 08:19

Do you have bad sickness and exhaustion? Perhaps get the doctor to sign you off on the sick for the weekend? Trust me, it's better to do that than be at work with the possibility of making mistakes or having to be in the toilet half the night. The rest will hopefully make you feel better... and worrying about work will certainly make you feel worse.

Also check out employment maternity rights... you may be allowed to request coming off night shift when pregnant, I'm not sure.

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amie28 · 14/06/2013 08:23

I don't know just that their not very nice I've heard ppl ring in sick on days and they've spoken to them like crap I didn't know whether to ring tonight and talk to night senior most of the day staff ring in sick at night too. I just worry easy too don't want ppl judging me one member of staff said to me last week I'm pregnant it's not an illness.

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PumpkinPie2013 · 14/06/2013 08:26

Hi Aime,
Sorry to hear you're feeling rough Sad I was like that during the first trimester and I'm a teacher so also a demanding job. In the end I took a couple of days off when I was about 10 weeks as I literally felt so awful Sad.

Does your boss know you are pregnant? If so I would hope they understand that you may feel ill at this stage. If they don't know yet can you confide in the boss so that they know why you are sick?

I told my boss at 7 weeks and asked him to keep it quiet (which he did) however, I'm very fortunate that we get on very well and I knew I could trust him to be pleased for me and respect my wishes to keep it quiet but I appreciate it isn't like this for everyone.

If you feel unable to tell them can you simply say you have a stomach bug and are vomiting? I know in schools if you have a sickness bug you're not allowed to work until you have been clear for 48 hours - is there something similar in healthcare?

Either way definitely ring in sick today and give them time to cover the shifts. Take care and I hope you feel better soon! x

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amie28 · 14/06/2013 08:30

My boss knows I'm pregnant and the night staff coz of me working with them but not the day's I didn't want everyone knowing just yet. Don't really get on with my boss tho coz I never see her and yeah we have to have 48 hours clear too

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plentyofsoap · 14/06/2013 08:41

I work shifts and they have stopped me doing them for health and safety reasons. As I am pregnant it is classed differently. I haven't had the best pregnancy either and got signed off, the doctor did not hesitate. Pregnancy related illness does not count towards your sick leave. I work hard and felt guilty, but baby and my health come first. Hope you start to feel better soon.

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amie28 · 14/06/2013 09:04

I know been trying for this baby for 2 years and won't do anything to risk loosing it I'm just being daft but they just make u feel so bad for ringing in.
Hope I feel better soon too lol this is my second and I had nothing with my first so this is a bit of a shock to the system

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plentyofsoap · 14/06/2013 09:32

Try not too worry about what they think, but I know its hard especially when you feel awful. Have the time off to rest.

Gerty1002 · 14/06/2013 10:48

It doesn't really matter what they think, legally they can't hold it against you if you're off sick for pregnancy related reasons. On a personal level, you and your baby's health and wellbeing are much more important than ignorant people's opinions. Anyway, you might be surprised at how they react, they could be completely understanding and sympathetic. Just look after yourself and I hope you feel better soon :)

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amie28 · 14/06/2013 14:45

I always worry wot other ppl think my fiance says I shouldn't. But thinking bout it I'd quit if it meant my baby was at risk.
Thx ladies you've made me feel loads bbetter I'm gonnA ring tonight and speak to my night senior hopefully start feeling better soon usually feel better after 12 weeks

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