severly depressed :(

[chowebella]

Hi everyone,

This is my first pregnancy and I'm currently 14 weeks. I had my 12 week scan and everything was perfect. Since my scan the anxiousness has slowly been creeping back in so much so that these last 2 days I'm convinced I'm no longer pregnant and its making me so miserable. I've lost 7lb since monday, I can't sleep and I've cried for 2 days. All my pregnancy symptoms have gone, my stomach has gone flatter to before I was even pregnant. I am going out of my mind with worry.
I'm afraid if I continue like this through my pregnancy I'm going to make myself ill. Is it normal to feel this way at 14 weeks, just simply do not feel pregnant?
Help, so very miserable at the moment.
Thank you

You need to see your GP about this, don't just sit with this anxiety.

Hey OP, I'd say it is very normal for the gap between your first and second scans to have these fears, but not worrying yourself to the point that you're losing that much weight and getting so upset. It's such a hard time because your symptoms do lessen, you still can't feel baby moving and so it becomes hard to believe that everything is ok. I got myself very worried around that time and have friends who've done the same. It won't be too long before you start to feel some wriggles but in the meantime I think you ought to contact your midwife to discuss how you're feeling and how much if an effect it's having on you. I hope you get the reassurance you need and soon start to enjoy your pregnancy.

yes it feels like that once in pregnancy.. but don't worry talk to your midwife..she can make you listen baby's hear beat by Doppler or if you are being impatient you can buy one so that whenever you want..
Instead of thinking these things just focus on how normally you would keep yourself healthy even when you would have not been pregnant still .. and drink lots of fluid to keep you glowing.. because once you start gaining weight there will not be turning back.. So enjoy healthy food and reassure yourself that every thing will be fine.. :)

Yes there is definitely time when you start feeling better, and the bloating subsides but you haven't got bump yet - and you do think, is this really happening? Please don't be so anxious - see your MW if you are worried, but don't sit around stressing. I'm also concerned that you're not drinking enough water as in that space of time it can only be fluid that your losing, not weight, so pleases drink lots and lots!

This is less about your pregnancy than about your state of mind. You really, really need to see your GP. Antenatal depression is very real.

Good luck OP

It sounds like you are suffering very badly from anxiety. As everyone else has said, you should speak to your midwife or your GP as soon as possible. You are right, you are making yourself ill, but it is not your fault.

I know that nothing will reassure you at this stage but I thought it might take the edge off to share my experience. I also suffered from (much less severe) anxiety after falling pregnant after a MMC last year. I thought the 12 week scan would put my mind at rest but in all honesty I have continued to experience niggling feelings of anxiety throughout the pregnancy, and I am almost 35 weeks now. He was a late mover (only now settling into a routine of movement and although these movements are strong he just rolls about, he very rarely kicks) and I only really started to calm down after these movements became regular, which I'd say was not until 30 weeks or so...

One thing I remember very vividly is a period when I felt I should have a bump, or the beginnings of a bump - maybe 14 weeks? - when my belly looked completely flat in the mornings. Even at my 20 week scan there wasn't much showing and it was 25 weeks plus before people started to comment on my bump. I remember asking my midwife if it was normal for there to be no bump and she just smiled and said not to worry - I would have one before I knew it. Now I can barely move for it :)

IMO the early part of the 2nd trimester was when I felt the least pregnant. The earlier, stronger symptoms start to clear up but the baby isn't moving yet and you can get a burst of energy back which makes you doubt there is even a baby in there.

You are losing weight due to stress and that is making the feeling worse in your case. Try - and I know it is nearly impossible - to cling to the memory of the scan, and seeing your healthy baby on the screen. In the weeks that follow you will hear his / hear heartbeat at every midwife appointment which I found very reassuring.

A little later on you could look into getting a fetal doppler which you can use to listen to your baby's heartbeat at home. I've heard a lot of people with anxiety issues find these reassuring although I haven't used one myself.

Hope this helps a little and you manage to speak to your midwife / GP very soon x

Agree with Spondulix - i think you need to see your GP. I don't think what you're describing are normal pregnancy worries. It is beyond normal when your sleep and eating patterns are affected. The sooner you get support the better. Best of luck

Thanks for your replies ladies they have really helped. I took a little break this weekend to go stay with a friend and i have booked to see my doctor in the week. Ive also booked a private scan tomorrow to put my mind at ease. I'm hoping a chat with the Dr will help so I can start getting excited about this pregnancy. Thank you all again your replies have helped a great deal :) x

That's great news, chow. I was thinking about you over the weekend. Very pleased you're going to see your GP.

Post back here if you need to.