Getting angry and upset at DP for no reason

[meandbumpy]

Hi, I'm 27, 13 weeks pregnant with my first child and feeling v. emotional. It's a planned pregnancy, DP and I are both over the moon about starting a family and he has been very supportive through what was a hellish first trimester (totally underestimated how hard morning sickness would be!!)
The only problem is that I've started to feel really vulnerable and keep starting arguments and getting upset with him.
I have these sort of panic attacks that I can't trust him and that he's not going to support me and the baby, and then end up shouting at him.
I think I'm feeling out of my depth as my own father rejected me at a young age and so it's always been a massive priority for me to make sure I find the right man to start a family with.
I've now found that man but because it's been a long time coming and been of major importance to me for so long I've become totally paranoid about it and finding it hard to just relax and enjoy starting a family.
Has anyone else experienced similar/ does anyone have any advice for a nervous first mum??

I think a lot of this might be those good old pregnancy hormones, but do try to think logically about it and cut your dp some slack, he may well be feeling overwhelmed too at the moment. I think all you can do is take a day at a time, and keep in mind that you have inner strength, even if what you feared happened you would get through it and still have your much wanted child, and everything would work out.

There are things you can do to help keep the relationship strong - make sure you still go on 'dates', do something fun, plan a trip away before the baby arrives, see friends and talk about anything but babies.

You will see your dp in a new light when the baby is born, seeing my dp be the wonderful father he is to our dd has made me love him in whole new ways, a baby does cause a big adjustment in a relationship but that really can be positive too.

Hi DIYandEatCake, thanks for your advice and kind words.
I am really trying to be logical but I think you're right that the hormones just sort of take over sometimes. I guess there's a lot of unknowns to the situation, coupled with my insecurities. It's really nice to hear about how your dp is as a father though as I realised I'd not actually taken the time to think about how mine will be. I've just been thinking about having to deal with everything on my own, an old habit I've developed I suppose.
I will definitely try to take the time to consider how my dp's good qualities will translate into becoming a father and also try to familiarise myself with the actual concept of fathers in general, seeing as I've not got a lot of experience of them!
I'll keep the date thing in mind too. It's been hard to stay close over the past few months because I've felt so crap but maybe now things are easing up it's time to start enjoying life again