clutching at straws?

[mollieisnt]

OK ladies I found out I was pregnant a few weeks back, I should be coming up to my 6 week mark, however on Tuesday morning I started bleeding ,( bright red) not a huge amount with slight cramps. I was so worried that I took a test straight away which was negative sad I called my Dr who said its probably an early miscarriage and there is nothing more she can do. However im now feeling my pregnancy symptoms again, sicky, heartburn and that god awful taste, is it possible that the neg test was wrong as it wasn't the first urine sample of the day?? I know I may be clutching at straws and im going to the doctors on Monday just wondered what people thought?

Hi, didn't want to read and run. If doc is not being helpful, I would go to my nearest hospital saying your getting pains and bleeding etc. They will take you to the EPU and arrange for blood tests and scan. The blood test will be repeated 48 hours later (something like this time scale) and the Hgc levels should have doubled. The blood test is mainly the best indicator (this sadly informed me of a previous mc) but the not knowing was so much worse and I could start to accept it and start to come to terms with it. If I was you, I'd put my mind at rest and go to the hospital if you're not getting anywhere at docs. Advice - you have to lay it on thick when you go to hospital and say lots of pain and blood etc or you may get advised to go home, rest and see dic again. Unfortunately, I had to do this so that they took me seriously and Im glad I did as I would have hated waiting another two weeks and the mc happen and I didn't know it was. Knowing helped me. Sending you a big hug, pls let me know how you get on X x

Doc not dic!!

I agree, if you cannot wait. Lay it on a bit thick and go to hospital. I'm in hospital after a threatened miscarriage.

Hugs!

Thank you ladies, bleeding has stopped now , have a feeling that I have in face had a MC but still have to cling on to that little bit of hope that maybe the neg test was wrong. Very scary time esp as im on my own, family aren't at all supportive and have just told me to get over it :( (really not helpful)
Will let you all know either way . Thank you xxxx

So sorry to hear that you don't have any support and all I can is that come on here at any time for some handholding and support. Sending you a big hug X

Thank you that means so much!! Im not loosing any sleep over people that cant be supportive they aren't worth my energy, if my baby is still there then he/she is the one that needs all my energy to keep them safe xx

Exactly, they are not worth it if they are not supportive during this really difficult time. You need some you time right now and what ever happens, you will get through this I promise you X x

Just to let you know ladies I do believe that I have had an early MC I did another test today (first response ) and its showing negative at almost 6 weeks it should show something at anytime of day if there was still something there. Would be lying if I said I was ok , but I know its something I have no control over. Just wanted to thank you for your kinds words xxx

Hi mollie, I think that the fact that two tests have now said negative gives a clearer picture and I am so sorry. Are you able to see another doctor than the one you first saw and you will need to discuss this with them and what happens moving forwards. I don't know your situation and if the pregnancy was planned etc but you will need to take some time out for yourself to come to terms with what happened. I was 4-5 weeks when it happened to me and I was obviously really upset. I took two weeks sick leave off of work to give me time to physically recover but also get my head around things. During this time I cried, had hot bubble baths, went shopping, read books and did things to make me feel better and then started planning about the future and trying again. This gave me hope, something to focus on etc and I fell pregnant a while shortly after. It helps to talk about things/feelings and if your family/partner arent being supportive, I will always be on this thread and respond and listen to you. I don't know how it works but I think you can privately pm also. Anyway, I'm here for you xxx

Im going to call my doctor tomorrow just so I can check that everything is ok just incase. Wasn't a planned pregnancy but was very happy about it, my partner has just had a death in his family so he is away at the moment. Im going to do my best to look forward, been here before and I know it takes time , don't think its something you ever "get over" you just learn to live with it. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me, I cant even begin to tell you how much it means xx

Hi Mollie, coming at this a bit late but just wanted to add my support and a virtual hug. I had a mc last yr around 7-8 weeks so really feel for you at the moment, esp if you aren't getting lots of support at home.

As the ladies have said above, go to hospital ( my midwife told me to go to a&e) and they'll get you into your EPU who will scan you and at least then you can get confirmation of what you suspect and start the healing process, or like you say, learning to live with it. I'm so sorry this has happened to you again.

Lots of virtual love and best wishes x

Hi Mollie, coming at this a bit late but just wanted to add my support and a virtual hug. I had a mc last yr around 7-8 weeks so really feel for you at the moment, esp if you aren't getting lots of support at home.

As the ladies have said above, go to hospital ( my midwife told me to go to a&e) and they'll get you into your EPU who will scan you and at least then you can get confirmation of what you suspect and start the healing process, or like you say, learning to live with it. I'm so sorry this has happened to you again.

Lots of virtual love and best wishes x

You're right, you don't ever get over it but you can slowly take steps to move forwards with the future in time and slowly come to terms with accepting what has happened. I actually had no idea how common mcs were until it happened to me and had various chats with my doc about it. I stopped blaming myself and all of the questioning as to why it had happened and started to accept that sadly it wasnt meant to be. I'm sorry to hear that this is not your first mc. I'm also sorry to hear that your poor partner can't be with you at this time (you two really are having it tough at the mo with the death in his family as well) however, I hope when he returns he can be there for you and you can support each other through this difficult time X x x

thank you so much! Think the cruellest thing is I still "feel" pregnant that's why I think I just need the Dr to confirm things . Im so glad I found this site its been a real comfort (you know what I mean). xxx

Ps It might sound silly... But the poem footprints in the sand was a great comfort to me when a friend shared it with me. I don't know if you know of it but if you google it, you can read it x

That is really cruel to have those feelings and must be so hard as you're trying to fight with your mind and your heart. I think def go and see another doctor tomorrow (not the one you first saw as that one didn't sound very good/nice). I would ask for the blood text levels that I referrered to earlier to be done as this was the final confirmation that helped me to accept it wasn't going ahead. It isn't helpful being told just to go away and it will happen naturally/or has happened etc. You need proper confirmation to be able to start to deal with it, especially as you are still having all those feelings xxx

Yep im going to get onto it first thing in the . Im a big believer in things happening for a reason sometimes I would just like to know the bloody reason :) xxx

Let me know tomorrow how you get on and insist that they carryout a blood test and don't let them fob you off. Thinking of you xxx

Thank you hun, you have been a fantastic support xxx

Hi Mollie, how did you get on at docs? Thinking about you today X

Hi cant get in until tomorrow ( better than the usual 4 week wait ) I know what the outcome is before i get there, had more than 1 negative since i had a bleed, would be a miracle if they found that the negative tests are wrong but im prepared (as much as you ever can be)
Hope you are ok xxx

No, sadly I think you are def right about the outcome. I just wanted to make sure you were ok and the doc was supportive this time and didn't just fob you off. At least you have an appointment tomorrow and don't have such a long wait. X x

Thanks very much ive found the support on this site to be amazing and knowing that there are people out there that understand is a comfort. Im sure when the time is right it will happen for us for know i know i have 2 angel babies watching over me. xx