led balloon

[feekerry]

i really don't get it. just announced our 2nd pregnancy to both families and it went down like a led balloon quite frankly.
dd is 14m and okay this wasn't exactly planned but its not the end of the world. both families were over the moon when i was pregnant with dd but this time they were bordering on rude. i understand its not as exciting as the first time but no one even seems pleased. not one of them said congrats/good news etc.
just don't get it. they are normally not like this AT ALL. i already feel like this is a mistake and now i feel ever worse. like i have commited a crime

Aww I am sorry you didn't get the reaction you wanted, congratulations on your pregnancy.

If you say they are not normally like this they are maybe just worried about the age gap/ how you will cope with 2 (clutching at straws for you...). I am sure they will come around to the idea.

Firstly, congratulations! My mum was also not very enthusiastic and seemed a bit non-pleased when I told her I was pregnant. It really shocked me because I am 30, married for 18 months, very financially stable and felt like there was absolutely no reason for this to be anything but fantastic news. We had told my DH's family the day before, and his dad bloody cried with joy!! I felt so let down. However, it turned out that my mum's reaction was just complete shock because I am very career minded and had always been vocal about not being bothered about having children (the bad relationship with my mother was one of the reasons for that). She never expected to receive that phone call, so I had may as well told her that I was going to the moon. She is now very interested in updates and scan photos and tells me how great it is, now she is over the shock.

My point is that there may be a plausible reason for their reaction, which is probably a lot less bad than your imagination tells you. Is there someone that you have a very honest relationship in yours or your DP's family who you could ask?

we are all v close really and i asked my mum outright what the issue is and she just said shock. i don't understand why shock tho? we have been married for 5yrs, own our house, financially stable etc. there is a lesser gap between other siblings.
my mil literally didn't say a word. my dad got up and said oh and pretty much went out for the afternoon

there will be about 23 months between them. not that crazy is?

I know the feeling, I however expected it, based on the fact OH already has three gorgeous children. I didn't expect not to be allowed my own though (obviously not said outright!), but after a bit of a bad reaction from OHs father hes come around. I think with this being their 9th grandchild....well....I hope yours are the same, you deserve every happiness for your family.

Sod them, sorry I know it's family but dont let them make you feel bad/down/or unhappy. It's amazing news and CONGRATULATIONS!! Celebrate the wonderful news and try (I know its difficult) and put their views/opinions out of your mind as you have exciting times ahead to look forward to!! They will soon come around : D X

First of all comgratulations! I understand how you feel! My sister was exactly the same when I told her I was pregnant with dc3. I too asked her straight out what the problem was. she apparently thought I'd left a too small an age gap between dc2 and 3, so I'll be more tired. She was just thinking about my health. I'll have a 22m gap between the last two children whereas there is a 4 year gap between dc1 and 2.

I'm sure their excitement will grow as you go further along, and all will be overjoyed once the baby is born :)

Some good advice offered.
I think after your 1st family & friends are less intreasted. Everyone has an opinion on age gaps... I think 23 months is a great age gap.

Im on no:6... Its the grown up children who will have opinions in my case, rest of the family won't be impressed either!

Congratulations!