Help me decide whether to travel or not!

[Snowflakepie]

Some months ago we were invited to a family event which will be held this weekend. We replied explaining I will be 38+6 and would love to come but would need to probably decide nearer the time. This was completely ok and understood, and we left it that whatever combination of DH, DD, unborn plus myself would come, or not, and we would let them know.

The journey will be 90 mins each way. Heading towards the coast, and its meant to be a glorious weekend so could easily be heavy traffic. I am swollen up like a beach ball with the heat, could put an outfit together that will do but would probably be uncomfy.

The event starts at 12 and we would want to leave around 5 really, to be sure of being home for DDs bedtime. So out from 10-7 potentially.

I would love to see the other people who will be there but the thought of 7 hours at home alone with my feet up is also very appealing! DH is happy to take DD by himself. Our family would be ok with me not attending. I just have a feeling that the journey there and back in a hot car, even with air con, and no easy places to stop for toilet etc, might be pushing things too far, leaving me feeling rotten all the next day and regretting going at all. But then I feel guilty as other than the swelling I am in good health generally. If it was just a bit closer to home I wouldn't question it but I worry that overdoing things will be more of an issue.

What would you do?

I would take the time to relax by yourself, when will the next opportunity for that be?

Even if you not going meant that DH and DD would be home too I'd still suggest staying home. Sounds like you'd be quite uncomfortable with the travelling etc

Absolutely take the day by yourself. Otherwise, as soon as you set off on the journey you will probably wished you had stayed at home. If you are anything like me, maybe spend a lot of the journey moaning too!

Do it for yourself, dont be a hero!

Yep I'd stay home too. Fill the paddling pool soak your feet an ld relax in the sun

Imo the car journey would be awful...not worth it...

I'd go, but I never got terribly big, car has good air con and I have bugger all social life.

Also I've always lived in the middle of no where, nearest supermarket was an hour from home.

Go for it enjoy your self, relaxing in the car enjoy the view before nappy changes and feeding times.
Hope you come to a decision congrats x

I was 38+5 and went with my husband to a work night away last week. The journey was about 3 1/2 hours up, and 3 hours home the next day. I felt ok. I took my hospital bag and notes just incase, but felt fine. Was in dh's work car which is luxurious compared to mine, I wouldnt have managed so well in my painfull! little car.

It's also my first baby, and from what it seems, first pregnancies are à walk in the park compared to subsequent.

Only you can decide how well you feel. not helping

if you've nothing planned the day before or after id be tempted to say go for it so you can soak in the ppool rest etC on both of those days, granted im 39+3 with the worlds biggest baby and pgp and somewhat restrictEd movement im going a bit stir crazy and would jump at the chance

I would go but take a pillow to sit on in the car, cool bag in your footwell with water and snacks, you can always lay the ice packs over your feet if you get too hot, and have the window down. Recline your seat and relax :) x