Will you indulge me in a pregnancy moan?!

[Dolallytats]

I am so pleased and grateful to be expecting DC3. I had DC1 at 19 and then failed to conceive for 15 years until DC2 gave us a huge surprise!! Now another miracle has happened and we are expecting our 3rd arrival in July.
However, I am 33+4 and feeling like a beached whale!! Every movement is difficult. I have suspected SPD (physiotherapy appt next Friday), I can't sleep, moving any which way takes so much effort. I feel shattered. I did not glow at all this time round!!

To make things worse I am agoraphobic and my anxiety has been even worse since I have been pregnant.

The weather is too hot and I am scared of giving birth!!!

Like I say, this is a much wanted pregnancy and I know I am hugely lucky, but I feel a bit better for having a moan because I feel rather crap!!

The upside is that the time has flown by (although as I am scared of going through labour again, this is a double edged sword!!)

Feel free to join me in a 'I am blessed, but can still have a whinge' if you want to

I feel so relieved you have typed this. I am 15 weeks pregnant after 7 years of trying, we conceived through IVF. However I am really struggling with my anxiety and I am finding it increasingly difficult to go out if the house. I feel so guilty for feeling like this when I have wanted it for so long. I suppose we have to tske each day as it comes, and be kind to ourselves. No matter how we conceived each pregnancy is different and each has it's own difficulties. I wish you well and hope things improve.

awwww i feel your pain. Pregnancy is hard, 3rd time round is VERY hard. I am preg with my 3rd and have suffered with SPD and am now at 39+5 and i cannt turn over in bed and can hardly walk :-(
You are well entitled to moan, its hard but you are nearly there, and your miracle baby will be in your arms x

Glad i seen this thread!

I had a mmc in February,was devastated. Been TTC since. It took nearly a year to get pregnant with baby i lost.

Found out i have an underactive thyroid. Stopped TTC, found out i was pregnant few days later.

Im on massive amounts of thyroxine. Feel so sick, physically hideous with side affects of meds & wish so much i wasn't pregnant.

I want a glass of wine, a good night out and Im sick of looking awful& feeling even worse.

I've promised myself regardless of the outcome of this pregnancy, no more pregnancies - Im too old & being doing this for too long!

Moan as much as you want :) I am happy to indulge you (and reserve the right to have a moan myself when feeling rubbish).

Just because you've planned something, wanted something, are happy about something, doesn't mean you can't talk about when it's a bit crappy and just downright hurts. Don't feel bad about it, you're pregnant, your body is doing weird things, and I don't think you should feel guilty that you don't feel grateful for all the aches and pains just because it took a lot of time/effort to get pregnant.

((hugs)) hang in there, you'll be snuggling your baby soon :)

Can I just swing by and give you a ((hug))

Big hugs to you all, of course you can moan! You want a baby, not the sheer unpleasantness that is pregnancy! Although the baby is hard work too... But just because you've had a tough time getting here, doesn't mean you can't be fed up too. Sometimes it can be harder if you've wanted something for so long and then the reality turns out to be less than ideal.

It will pass. You will feel better and you will cope. Keep talking and don't feel bad about that.

Thank you all for the hugs and the moans. Isn't it a relief to find out you're not the only one?!
Lolapink, I'm sorry you have anxiety too. It's horrible isn't it? If you go to your GP, they will be able to refer you for CBT therapy which can help. I've just been given an appt, but not sure how I am expected to get there!! Agoraphobia means you are scared of going places....but you have to GO somewhere for an appt!! Madness!! I shall have to see what I can do. I'm only getting to physiotherapy because my husband is coming (and I have the whooping cough vaccination afterwards...Woo!!).
There are some great books out that might help you too. Keep getting out, even if it's just a walk round the block. I didn't and developed agoraphobia. If I could go back, I would persevere...I just didn't realise what was happening until it was too late. Good luck x

s0fedup, I really get the turning over in bed thing!! It's like a full blown military operation just to turn over!! My legs are like jelly, even when there isn't always pain. You don't have long to go and then you can roll around the bed as much as you like!! Good luck!!

Shellywelly, yep, last one for me too!! I am 39 now and this one is coming a full 20 years after the first. I am way too old now and, although I am still a teen in my head, my body is feeling every one of its years....and then some!! I have a mental list of reasons to do this again, or not. There is nothing on the 'do it again' list, but a whole long list of 'never agains'!!
I really hope it all goes well for you.

knittingirl, I think you hit the nail on the head. I know people are struggling to have children (goodness knows I felt jealous loads in the 15 years it took to have DS), and it makes you feel guilty for not having a 'lucky me' grin plastered on for the entire 9 months. The hugs are appreciated, thank you!!

elQuintoConyo, thank you for the hugs and flowers. They are very much appreciated!!

i cannot wait to be able to move!!
(Whispers... I have just lost my plug so I am a teeny bit excited and scared as I went into labour after having shows both times before...)

Bless you, moan away! Much longed for bump here, but at just over 38 weeks, I've had enough! I want a full nights sleep, to be able to see my toes, to move without groaning and to do ANYTHING without ending up out of breath and in pain. Feels terrible to complain when I was so desperate to have a child, but pregnancy and labour was never meant to be easy and I'm sure all this pain will make the end result that much better!
I hope it all goes well, offering plenty of un-mumsnetty hugs in the meantime.

Moan away! It's all I seem to do and after two miscarriages, one dc who we almost had to terminate on medical advise (don't ask) and a five year build up to doing it again this baby is extremely wanted and very planned.

Doesn't mean I don't hate being pregnant. I really do hate it. I've never glowed except for green with nausea or red from breathlessness and night sweats.

I'm 37+2 and can't wait for labour. Who in there right mind wants labour? That called desperate.

S0fedup I understand. I can't move now because of spd. That constant hot poker pain can't go soon enough. Climbing the stairs on all fours is my recent addition to the glamour.

oh cupcake u poor thing!
I have one too...
The only way i can my knickers on is if i lay them on the floor, shuffle my feet in, then pull up! sexy!!

Pregnancy is just so glam! There is always the slingshot method. Im in the shuffling camp also, my days of knicker slingshot are gone. I can't wait to pull back a bit of my dignity. Doing that with a boob out 12 hours a day and a nursing bra could be interesting! Time to get my wraps and pashminas washed so at least I can be colourful with my tit out

Ooooo, s0fedup, will there be a live birth thread happening soon?

jammiedonut, I am looking forward to seeing my toes!! I've never had my bellybutton pop out before, but I think it's going to this time....yuck!! Just another thing to moan about!!

Snowflakepie, thank you for that, it does almost feel like I need permission to moan. It just feels/sounds ungrateful, and I'm really not!!

cupcake78, I think that was the only glowing I have done this time too!! I loved being pregnant at 18, I did glow then. The pregnancy at 34 was not so great, constant bleeding and having to stay in hospital for most of it. I look back at photos and I look grey. This time round I just feel bleugh and old!! I'm scared of labour but can't help longing for it at the same time!!

Oh, you both made me giggle with the 'knicker shuffle'!! I can get one foot in ok, but for some reason, the other won't go in so easily. I have to kind of 'fling' the knicker and see if I manage to lasso my foot in the hole!! Oh the embarrassment!!

oh I would love to have her tonight! I went to the shop and got all my fav yummy foods which I am working my way through!! Hubby is working late, kids away for the night with the gp, and I am watching OBEM, think I will get on the ball...

Doll that's the knicker slingshot!

Keep us posted s0fedup!!

Ahhh, is that what it's called cupcake? Is it really bad that I have considered keeping the same pair of knickers on all week month just so I don't have to go through it every morning!!

hello!
still no sign of baby! have had another blob of plug though... going for a nap, oh i do love an afternoon nap!!

Hope you enjoyed your nap....come on baby, make an appearance!!

hello! had a super nap and a wander around tesco which resulted in some more goop... but still mo baby!!! my 2ds will be home tomorrow at midday so i am still hoping for a nightime dash...

Have my fingers crossed for you!!

Oh feel free to moan!

I conceived my much wanted baby through IVF after many years of trying.

I am delighted to pregnant but I also suffer from anxiety, haven't been sleeping and I'm getting more hormonal by the day!

It's so possible to be elated but tired and emotional/worried at the same time.

Be kind to yourself xxxxxxxx

the only thing coming out is goop!!
Oh the joys!

lauracutee, thank you and congratulations!! Lack of sleep is a bit of a killer, isn't it-and plays havoc with the anxiety.

oh, s0fedup, maybe today is not your day (I should really leg it after saying that, but I'm just too fat and tired!!). Hope it happens soon for you

thanks dolally! i just had a mini breakdown of tears, so fed up with this bloody spd... I can cope with the preggy stuff its the red hot polka pain that is so depressing x