c-section, worst thing they could of said to me. please read :(

[looloo13]

Hi Ill try to make this brief, I had 2 normal deliveries 18 and 17 years ago, 13 years ago I had a still born so when conceived again 12 years ago I couldnt cope with the thought of losing another child again and asked for c-section. it went wrong, ended up with 9.5inch blood clot, missed out in over a month of my daughters life as was in intensive care and then needed physio just to get walking again, left with perminent damage to right leg. never thought I would ever want another baby !! then met my new husband, no children, wonderful with my 3 other children so after lots of consideration and meetings with specialists decided to try for a baby, horrendous pregnancy, injections every day, lots of extra tests, lots of scares, been in and out of hospital but finally the end is near. been told from start to have natural delivery as safer for me so got my head around this only now at 39 weeks to be told they need me delivered by 39 weeks as cant risk induction so booked for c-section next wednesday. all the excitment of being a mum again gone and complete fear taken over, just want to cry.

Oh sweetheart.

Have you spoken to them about your last delivery and how it has effected you?

I came here to tell you about my section after a vbac, which I really didn't want but was fine and easier recovery than my first delivery. That's no help to you but most times what you described isn't what happens. You need to talk to someone at the hospital, perhaps some counselling, can your partner support you in doing that?

Oh you poor thing, that sounds like such a harrowing experience. As already said, have you raised your concerns with the hospital?

I was about to post that my elcs experience was brilliant two years ago. Is it the same hospital as before, same doctors?!

Try and think positively that medicine is advancing every day and so your experience this time is likely to be very different. Plus, they're recommending what is deemed safest for you and your lo. And most importantly, you'll get to meet them very soon .

Oh bless you, poor thing :(

I think you should look at your notes and see who's told you this. You have a choice, or at the very least the right to an informed decision.

You can ask to either speak to the Head of Midwives or Supervisor of Midwives, who will fully explain and discuss the situation. They can review your birth plan and write a decision in your notes to formalise.

What I have in my notes now is very different to what I was "told".

I don't want to get your hopes up, but hopefully at the very least they should fully explain their reasoning and offer counselling x

thank you all for your replies, Im going to ring midwife today as Im not sleeping at all since they told me. its a new hospital built to replace old one,I dont have the same specialist which is a shame as he knew me very well, and when I went back this week it wasnt my other specialist either. all I was told is I cant go over my date as induction is not a possiblity and it would have to be c-section anyway. I am getting very down but hopefully after a talk today I should feel better and on plus side Ill have my baby boy in my arms next week. thanks again to you all xxx

If you don't feel they are taking your concerns seriously you can contact the PALS at the hospital who will help you get your first choice if possible.x

Hi. I sympathise. I had a clot on my lung after DD2, following a c section under general. This was despite daily injections through the pregnancy. I would be feeling like you if they were suggesting another section. I suspect they are saying another section because historically, they have not liked to induce after a section due to the very slight risk associated with the previous scar rupturing (i think). Thinking on this point has changed though in recent years, so might be worth doing some research and getting a second opinion.
Poor you. You have had a rough time of it. So sorry to hear of your loss.
Hope everything goes smoothly this time, whichever route you end up taking.

thank you for your replies. Will under no circumstance induce me, so its up to him to come before wednesday or c-section is going to go ahead. I did ring hospital and awaiting to see if they can find me someone to talk to before wednesday but not holding my breath for it. Trying to be brave. thanks again x

Why are they advising against going over 39 weeks?

I don't have anything particularly useful to add as I haven't been in your situation, but I didn't want to read and run. I can absolutely see why you are upset and stressed and I hope the hospital talks it over properly with you. Offering you my hand to hold in the meantime if you want it.

But why must they do the c section at 39 weeks? Is there a reason? Has your blood pressure rocketed? What is the medical need? If there is no medical need to get the baby out at 39 weeks, I would suggest you could say you will agree to a c section but only at the point when they would induce you for being overdue (40+12 at my hospital, but I know it can be 40+10).

I agree with legallyblond.

There may be more to it, but it doesn't sound like a 2 way discussion, rather you being told. You do have a choice - if you want it x

I don't really understand why they are saying you can labour naturally now, but not any later. If you are on blood thinning, I understand that they want to control the birth as much as possible, because they want you to stop the injections before you birth your baby, obviously because of the bleeding risk.
So in my case, first time, they wanted to induce me, so they could stop the injections, then deliver. It didn't work, so I had to have a section. The second time, the dilemma was they wouldn't induce, because of previous section, so really the only choice was section. But had I pushed very hard, they would have let me labour naturally I think, just stop doing the injections as soon as there was any sign of labour. Also, I had other underlying conditions, so everything pointed to a section. BUT my clot was on the second pregnancy. Had it been my first, I think the case for a natural birth would have been much stronger.
Hope this is helpful. I assume your injections are blood thinning? PM if it would help.

hello again, yes my injections are fragmin 5000ml daily for blood thinning. to my surprise my specialist called me yesterday and has booked me in to see him today, he was very understanding on the phone and wants to discuss everything face to face so fingers crossed Ill come away feeling much better today. Ive been reading up alot the last few days on c-section and vbac, lots of scary pros and cons for both so hopefully he can help me make my mind up x

Best of luck. Let us know how you get on today.