have just had a miscarriage :(

[bexterb]

First pregnancy at 42 and just miscarried at 12 weeks. Surgical 'evacuation' hideous terminology, day before yesterday. Feeling strong mentally at present but physically feel hollow and not sure what to expect in the coming days/ weeks. Not sure what is instore :( any recommendations or words of experience would be greatly received right now.
Bxxx

I'm so so sorry. I don't have any useful experience to offer but wanted to respond. I hope you'll get some good info. from others soon, and please take care of yourself.

So very sorry that you are going through this.
Give yourself plenty of time and care, you are going through a massive hormonal upheaval on top of the strong emotions. It's great that you are feeling strong now, but don't kick yourself if you have wobbles, blue days and situation you struggle to face. It is all very normal. Hopefully you have some RL support to lean on and a DP who is able to talk to you.
Take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a pregnancy is very much like grieving someone who has died in that you can pass through several phases including denial, anger, sadness etc.

I found the MN pregnancy loss board a tremendous help, and also this site www.pregnancyloss.info/ for all things physical and emotional.

Be kind to yourself, it can be a bit of a rough ride. xxx

I am so sorry. Be kind to yourself and let yourself mourn - it is a very real loss.

I'm so so sorry. Have bumped a thread for you in the pregnancy loss section,didn't know if you'd find it helpful. Thinking of you.

(sorry meant to say-it's now in Active Threads but you can find this section under Body & Soul too). Hope it helps x

It can feel very weird for quite sometime. I felt exhausted and frankly like id been run over for a few weeks. I was emotionally wobbly but remained positive all the same.

I'm pleased your feeling mentally strong. Allow yourself the time and space to grieve. You can't just forget it. It took me a few days/weeks for the hurt to really hit and even then I don't think I fully recognised the impact until I'd come out the other side.

Others will not fully understand what it's like for you. I remember feeling very empty and lonely. I had a lot of support but it came from people
who'd never been through it. It's difficult to grieve something not tangible but so precious which is why it can feel confusing.

I've had a couple of miscarriages at different stages of pregnancy. How they happened and how I was treated at hospital had a big affect on me.

I'm sorry for your loss op. Please take time to recover.

Oh B I'm so sorry for your loss, I really am. We miscarried last year and I also had to have the surgical removal.

As others have said, allow yourself time to grieve and don't beat yourself up if you have some hard times emotionally ahead, even if you feel ok mentally right now.

I tried to take comfort in the knowledge that we had managed to get pregnant, compared to friends who were struggling to, and that it meant we could again and that that particular pregnancy just wasn't meant to be, tragically.

I really do wish you all the best. Lean on people in these sorts of forums who know what you're going through xxx