Don't know what to do - bleeding, early scan & holiday

[DawnOfTheDee]

Ok, I really need someone to tell me what to do. My head's all in a muddle and don't know what to do for the best.

I'm pg. I thought about 7 weeks. On monday I had a bleed. It was quite a bit of blood but no pain and stopped fairly quickly. Doctor referred me to EPU and I had a vaginal exam there. They confirmed bleeding had stopped, said cervix was closed but they would like me to have a scan.

Went back to EPU the next day. Scan showed gestational sac but they couldn't see anything else. Sonographer said it looked more like I was 5/6 weeks and that could be why she couldn't see anything else. Also a possibility of a failed pg or ectopic pg (but ectopic less likely as no pain). As well as the gestational sac she could see a bit of haemorraging (sp).

Anyway they have booked me in for another scan a week on friday at 1.20pm.

Problems:
I am meant to be on holiday next week, flight gets in at 11.40am friday so technically if flight is on time I should be able to make the scan.

DH is meant to fly out for a stag do on friday at 2pm.

I am all over the place going between positive that my dates were just a bit out and everything is fine and upset & teary cos I think i've mc.

I have NO IDEA what to do. Do i still go away or should i stay? Try and rearrange the scan? Please can someone hold my hand/tell me what to do/make next friday happen NOW because this waiting is just so horrible.

First of all - will your holiday insurance cover you if you begin bleeding heavily or, god forbid, MC or have a ruptured ectopic on holiday, particularly when you've been told before going that this is, in theory, possible? Sorry to suggest such horrible things as possibilities but this needs to be the first consideration as, if you aren't insured for these eventualities the holiday's a non-starter :(

Can't you ask for it to be pushed forward to Thursday or arrange a private?

All the best

Sorry to hear ur prob,
I'm 6weeks 3d and unaware of pregancy, knowing now i would not of went on holiday but had no clue or signs, it is personal prefrance to what u should do. Think of ur safety first hun hope you can cum to some decisions soon take care
All the best

I think that you should consider cancelling your holiday. Miscarrying can be hard (not necessarily but can be) you would not be wise to risk flying when it happens.

There is a chance that all might be well (I had a pregnancy where at 7 weeks measured less than 5, but measured correctly at next scan), but I don't know I would have enjoyed a holiday, while in the limbo of not knowing.

If you have insurance you should be able to claim back with medical letter advising not to fly.

I hope your next scan brings good news.

i flew at 3 weeks unaware i meant

Thanks ladies. I'm leaning towards cancelling I think - it means letting a friend down but I know she'll completely understand. I was looking forward to getting away but I don't think i'm comfortable being that far away from home should anything happen (though fx it doesn't).

Can you phone up and ask for a scan on the Thursday or perhaps an early morning scan like 7am? Let them know your predicament and I'm pretty sure they'll do something about it.

Personally I wouldn't cancel my holiday until I know for sure what the outcome is.

Sorry I just realised my op isn't 100% clear. I'm meant to fly to Italy on monday 10th and come back fri 14th.

Oh I see. In that case I really wouldn't go. Mc's affect different women very differently. For some it may mean heavy bleeding and a lot of pain. If you do miscarry you'll want to be in the comfort of your home with easy access to health care and not having to worry about costs and insurance. I'm sure your friend will understand if you cancel.