Just pregnant + holiday = scared (after MC)

[shirleycat1]

I am nearly 5 weeks pregnant so VERY early days. I had a miscarriage in February at 9 weeks. I barely feel any different at the moment. It's so subtle it could be in my mind because I've had (several) positive tests. I am so scared of stuff going wrong. I have 2 dc's, 4 and 18 months and we are going away for a week on Wednesday, booked ages ago. I'm scared flying will make something terrible happen, or I'll start to miscarry whilst I am away. I am trying to be positive and rational (had 2 normal healthy pregnancies, no reason for things to go wrong) but I think I just want some reassurance that I should go away and everything will hopefully be OK.

Anyone else been in a similar situation?

I'm not personally in the same situation but a friend of mine (who was actually told she was infertile!) found out she was pregnant AFTER her holiday to Disney World Florida. She did all the rollercoasters, drank most evenings with dinner, had the 2 long haul flights etc and a beautiful healthy little boy just before Christmas last year.

She also previously had a miscarriage, so there is no reason why you can't do the same . Maybe try thinking in a more positive way about how the holiday will help since you'll be more relaxed.

Hi, congratulations on the pregnancy! I'm sure your worry will never go away. I know I was really concerned first pregnancy and I am in this one too, and you have to added experience of it happening before to worry you even more.

I just wanted to reassure you that flying is perfectly safe. I'm sure your previous mc wasn't down to anything you did. Enjoy your holiday, take time to relax

Congratulations! I went away at 7 weeks pg with ds1 who is now 7 and everything was fine, try and relax and enjoy your holiday x

I am 15 weeks, and went long-haul to Thailand at 10 weeks on holiday and since I have been back I have flown to France with work and off to New York with work tomorrow. This is my first so was a little nervous, but just made sure to drink lots of fluids and wore lose fitting clothes cause still getting bloated and I don't think cabin pressure helps that

Went to the States at 8 weeks, after a string of miscarriages. Am now 35 weeks so it obviously didn't do any harm! If anything, the chance to have a bit of a break and relax a bit will probably do you good.

Also, on the other side ... I miscarried when on holiday once. It was obviously devastating, but not worse than it would have been if I was at home. If anything, it made me realise that I didn't want to spend all my time being sad and mourning what could have been, when I already had a lot to be grateful for.

I'm sure everything will be fine for you - hope you have a lovely relaxing holiday.

I had a miscarriage after IVF in March (so a very, very much wanted pregnancy). I intend to take several flights if I am lucky enough to become pregnant again (I travel a fair bit for work and for leisure). There is no link between flying and miscarriage.

Enjoy your holiday.

Thank you so much everyone. I'm sorry for the people who have experienced miscarriages. It's really shit isn't it. Thank you for all the kind words and reassurance. I think you're right that a relaxing holiday will be a good thing and rationally I know that no amount of worrying or not worrying will affect things in the long run so it's better just to get on. It's hard though when you have a tiny irrational voice causing intrusive thoughts of horribleness to occur!

When I found out I was pregnant following a mc and about to go on holiday my v lovely GP arranged an early scan to reassure me - think I was 7 or 8 weeks though.

I had early bleeding and a scan where they could see a sac but no baby at the EPU. They told me it was early days and it's probably all fine to come back in 7 days. I told them I was about to go on holiday and should I cancel and they said no to go and return to the EPU in 14 days instead.

I went, I worried, but the holiday did take my mind off the scare and the bleeding. When I returned and went back to the EPU the baby was there with a little flicker of heartbeat. The relief was amazing.

I'm sure it's something you will worry about, but the holiday should take your mind of it, you'll be more relaxed.

Go and enjoy.

im in the same shoes have 2 dc 3 and 1 and had a mmc in dec at 11 weeks im pregnant again 17 weeks now and dp is desperate to go away as he's booked a week off ages ago. im not worried about the going away bit i just rather be here when it's my 20 week scan is due. i had to call up hospital to tell them im away so they will do scan later but went for a scan today and luckily everything is going ok and now feel im a lot happier about going away. i had my earliest scan when i was barely 6 weeks so why not have a super early scan for them just to confirm things are ok? good luck x

I was thinking about having a scan but I won't even be 5 weeks tomorrow, which is the last day before my holiday, so I don't think there's any point. If all goes OK on my holiday I'll book one when I get back for around 9 weeks I think. It's so nice and reassuring to hear others who have had miscarriages and have gone on to have full healthy pregnancies. The whole think is such an emotional roller coaster. I'm so happy and excited but so terrified at the same time.

Thanks again everyone.

I'd better get on and pack...