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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

He's left me

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Ls271082 · 02/06/2013 16:08

My bf off a year and half has just left me stating I can't give him what he needs and gone back to his ex wife. By this he means talking to my ex husband (who I was married to previously for 4 years) about selling the house we own together. He says I've never picked him over my ex and I've begged and pleaded with him, saying I love him, it's him I want and I will have the conversation when I'm ready. But it's not enough. I told him I haven't done it yet because of pregnancy (25weeks) and don't want the stress of all that and I'm also struggling with prenatal depression (on medication and receiving psychiatric support weekly) so just have not felt able to deal with sorting out house, finances. Have explained this to bf and rightly so I guess, he just stated 'what was your excuse before you we're pregnant'. He says he knows I'm not holding on because I want ex husband back but has left anyway saying he's sad he's wasted a year and half of his life with me, neglecting his own son (from previous marriage). Am totally heartbroken, he's always going on about how stress can cause ADHD etc in unborn children and he's gone ad caused me the most stress ever. He's not blocked my mobile number, blocked fb and twitter and completely cut me out of his life. I'm devastated. Crying non stop, I don't want to spk/see anyone and can't see how I'll ever get over this. Friends have said focus on pregnancy and doing best by her, but can't cope with life atm. He's finished with me countless times but never gone back to ex or blocked me etc and I've always took him back. I just really want him back.

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Maria33 · 02/06/2013 16:16

No advice. Just didn't want read and run.

Being left during a pregnancy is the hardest time.

Don't stress about stressing your baby out. Just focus on keeping your head above water.

Find a rl friend to handhold xxx

Maria33 · 02/06/2013 16:18

Oh and maybe post in relationships - you'll get lots of advice and sympathy there.

MissSG · 02/06/2013 16:24

I'm so sorry.

I was in your situation and I still am, I have a 21 MO DS and I am 31 weeks PG with DC2. My fiancé left me last November, completely out of the blue and made me move out of our home and in with my parents. From the moment he told me he was moving out his things were gone that night.

I was like you, completely heartbroken and devastated like nothing mattered anymore. I am still heartbroken and devastated and I ask him to come back to me every time I see him (7 months later) I would have him back in a heartbeat.

The difference between then and now is that then I was crying everyday and nothing seemed to make it any better and now I only have to look at my DS and feel a kick in my belly to know what is important and that is my children. They will never leave me and they are the most important things in my life, my ex completely ruined me by leaving but I have everything to thank him for because he gave me my DS and this baby who I am so excited to meet.

The heartbreak hasn't gone, I still want him back but now I know what is important and what I want in my life more than anything which will always be my children.

I know how you feel and nothing I can say will take the pain away but please know that I have been there and although I still love my ex and I would have him back it has gotten easier and now the focus is on my children and it always will be.

Hope you feel better soon.

Shellywelly1973 · 02/06/2013 16:50

I ended up pregnant i& on my own 24 years ago. My ex wanted nothing to do with me or the baby.

Do you know what? I coped. I adore my Ds. I wish i didn't waste most of my pregnancy &the first few months of Ds life, crying &pining for a useless & cruel man.

You will come to terms with whats happened. Your dp dosnt sound like a very caring person-maybe in time you will realise you've had a lucky escape!

Look after yourself. Concentrate on your little baby...you owe it to your baby.

notspringchicken · 02/06/2013 17:21

Really sorry....

Don't have any real advice to impart. Just sincerely hope you have some caring and supportive people in your life who'll help get you through. Sending positive thoughts :-)

MrsBungle · 02/06/2013 17:24

Can I second the suggestion to repost this in relationships? There is such great advice there from loads of knowledgable people.

So sorry this is happening to you. X

honey86 · 02/06/2013 20:59

hey hunni((hugs))

join us in relationships.

im sorry your going through this Sad im preg (18 weeks) and newly single too.

feel free to let rip on here anytime xx

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