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daniellebthl · 31/05/2013 01:41

im kinda scared that I might be pregnant, I was kinda excited then now im worried that I am.. and I don't know im just scared considering that im 19.. and my fiancée we have known each other for a real long time. and im just planly scared that people are gunna start talking about me. I hope someone can help me get over this feeling.

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 31/05/2013 02:21

Its scary at any age being pregnant, I had my first child at 18 and my last at 30 (and a few in between) and I was just as scared with them all.

The first thing you need to do is find out for sure. Go and get a test so you know what you are dealing with, either you are pregnant in which case you need to get prepared or you aren't in which case you need to look at what contraception you are using if you have reason to think it failed (assuming you aren't trying for a baby).

Secondly you need to stop justifying yourself, no-one needs to know how long your fiancee has known you, or even that you are engaged, if you are pregnant its your business and not something you need to apologise for.

People will talk, mostly to say how excited they are, or offer advice or help, you will get the occassional comment, but, again, thats something that happens with every pregnancy, people are too old or too young or won't be able to cope or are trying for a girl/boy or trying to patch up their relationship or a whole host of other things that stupid people will say regardless and if they can't be supportive then they aren't worth bothering about.

If you are pregnant then expect to spend the next 18 years 9 months fretting about every tiny thing, its all part of being a parent but please do find out for sure, sooner rather than later.

MisselthwaiteManor · 31/05/2013 12:51

There will always be someone who has to make a stupid, judgemental, or plain rude comment, no matter your age/colour/shoe size! Do not worry about them. You'll develop a deaf ear to it.

Is your fiancé supportive? Would he be happy with the pregnancy? What about your family?

volleyball17 · 01/06/2013 04:19

he is VERY supportive, he is actually happy that he is gunna be a dad..

igirisu · 01/06/2013 21:26

I found out when I was 21 that I was going to be a mum, people judged me but there's always someone with something to say, I doubt many of us were ready to have children when we found out we were oregnant for the first time until the news was placed in our laps, then we have to make ourselves ready! Good luck x

meditrina · 01/06/2013 21:32

You need to test and find out if you are indeed pregnant.

What "people might say" really isn't that important.

MultipleMama · 01/06/2013 22:13

I got pregnant at 17 and had DS1 when I was 18. I got lots of comments and stares at college but left college just after I had DS1 to pursue my career ambition.

Take a test, find out then deal with it all.

Be prepared for the comments and stares you may get and it's hard to ignore them. DH & I hadn't been together long and he's older, I called a lot of names because of that but we we're happy and we were determined but bloody scared out of our minds.

In the end all that matters is what's best for you and that you're happy. No one has the right to judge you, comment, insult or make assumptions about something that doesn't concern them.

Be happy and fuck the rest.

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