Someone tell me to get a grip!

[tazmo]

I am 42 with 3 healthy children. My youngest is 10 months. I am lucky as we had ivf the first time (one blocked tube and dh with sperm motility issues) and the the other 2 came naturally. I have 3 children under 5.

Why therefore can I not stop wanting to be pg again. I can't afford anymore, already had 3 c sections due to circumstance and had an amnio due to high downs risk this time. We r constantly knackered and I really need to move on and enjoy the 3 as I say, healthy children I have.... Yet there's this part of me thinks how sad that I wont be pg anymore? Is this normal?? I have friends who have had such bad luck with their pg I feel I should be grateful I've had 3 relatively smooth pg?

Get a grip.

OMG get a grip! Really!

I really want 4 DC myself so I'm probably not the best person to respond.

It's your body and something that you and DH need to discuss. You want to be around to mother the ones you have and not take risks.

Being pg is so nice. Newborns are lovely too. I think it's normal to feel like that, you are hard wired to want more, it's part of being a woman and a mother.

Get a grip OP!

I have two children, one is just 2 the other is 8 months old, I only ever want to have two children. I hate being pregnant, the last time I gave birth I decided that I did not have it in me to do that ever ever again, and the last couple of years have been the amongst hardest in my life both physically and emotionally. I am 37 and I at least want a glimmer of hope that my children will have left home by the time I am 60, but I found myself thinking wouldn't a third be lovely, and it would be great to get the chance to use my girls name. It really wouldn't be, I have other things to do. I love my children so much but these other things would just never get done if I have more.

Read the posts about how grim early pregnancy is, consider it prophylaxis!

Seriously - being pg is NOT nice! Pains, sickness, tiredness.

Yes - lovely outcome - but 9 months of not v pleasant.

27 today with DC1. I am not entirely sure there will be any more!

I'm currently feeding my 6mo DS whilst 3yo DD is napping & can say I feel a bit like you. My DH is fairly adamant that 2 is enough, but I had 2 straight forward, relatively easy pg & births (DS was born at home, as planned, less than 7hrs after the first contraction) and I cannot say I don't feel a little pang of sadness when I think about not having anymore. Yet logically I know it wouldn't be the wisest idea for vast numbers of reasons.

My head says one thing, my heart says another. I hope that at some point it will fade & I will be very grateful for my 2 wonderful dc as they are, or that the feeling will become so unbearably huge & overwhelming that I won't fail to know I want a 3rd...

I am 42. DD2 is 7 months and has recently decided sleep overnight is for wimps. Clearly I am a total wimp. I am hiding at work, struggling to cope with the tiredness after getting only 2 hours sleep last night.

Do you really want 9 months pg, another c-section and the sleepless nights with a baby? It is definitely harder as you get older. Also, when pg with DD2, I found out the hard way about another risk that increases with age - being pg and over 40 caused my gall bladder to block with small stones and become infected. This was the most painfull thing I have ever experienced.