Hi Sophie, might be an idea to start a new thread
I ahd a high risk result for ds3 and DID NOT have amnio, the risk of miscarriage was greater than the chance I'd have had a temrinbation, so it wasn't worth it. At my 20 weeks scan, the hospital used a special high resolution scanner and gave me extra time so they could aprticualrly check for markers- doesn't give you any definites but does mean things that might be a concern from Downs (eg heart problems) could be picked up, and can give you some indication- eg markers AND a high risk means more likely than no markers, if you see what I mean?
AS it was ds3 didn't ahve Downs, he DOES have autism which cannot be tested for, and we adore him.
We found the hardest aprt was the rpessure put on us by midwife, hospital etc to get an Amnio- actually we capitulated, attended than ran away LOL!
You don't say what your actual risk was, sometimes high risk can be quite low, especially if you're young. If thats the case. my MW said to imagine a ward with as many beds as your isk facotr- and then envisage only one with a child with downs syndrome. That helps gets the risk in perspective.
Have a look as well at things like the downs syndrome asscoaition- or post here for one of the Mums who have a child with downs syndrome. Information is often what you need to reach the answer that si right for you, not the medical professions, whatever that would be.
Good luck X