I'm a so called young mother too.
I love being a mother. I don't care about age. 40 or 16 that doesn't matter. What does matter is that you're a good parent.
I remember being 20 and pregnant with my first child. I've always looked younger then I really am. Also something that I love.
But people even asked me if it was an accident. People judged me on how old they thought that I was.
People looking at me, staring and someone told me she thought I was to young to be a mother when I was pregnant.
People totally don't understand how insensitive they are. How stupid it's to look down at someone, just because of their age.
In human history we ladies have been getting married around the age of 15 and between that and the age of 20 we got our first child.
At that time people treated you badly if you were an unmarried mother.
In the past it was the church that made people treat each other so badly. Now it's the media that makes people believe that a teenage mum can't be a good mum.
Or your life is over when you become a young parent!??!?!
Why?
Or not being able to pay for the child.
Does a baby need to have a bedroom full of the most expensive stuff?
My husband is 15 years older then me. He never got any of those comments.
Even some friends I had thought he was the one doing the house and taking care of the child, because how was I able to do that at my age?
As you can imagine these are now my ex friends. Never see them anymore!
My husband worked full time.
So who did clean the house, looked after the baby and everything? That was me afcourse!!! Idiots.
I was a stay at home mum. Something we both decided. We rather had less money and one of us staying with the baby then more money, both working and someone else looking after our child.
Some people thought that I was lazy, because I was a stay at home mum?
Sooo annoying!!!
We believe that every parent must make their own choices and ours was that I stayed at home. But if someone else thinks it's better to work and have more money.
I would never judge them. Nothing wrong with either way, but why can't these people respect our choice?
How stupid can they be to judge someone else, simply because they aren't like them?
We wanted to have a second child quickly after the first one. We're happy that after a year I was pregnant again.
One of my friends said to me:
Again? Don't you know how to use a condom?
That was another friend I said goodbye to.
Not much later she called me.
She got pregnant by accident with her boyfriend!!!
I was supportive to her. I'm not the kind of person who would be horrible to someone, because that person was horrible to me.
But in my mind I thought:
Justice!!!!
Don't you know how to use a condom, bitch!
Every parent needs a thick skin, because of all the comments that we get. But especially when you look younger you do need an extra thick skin.
The problem is with these idiots and not with us ladies! Judge a parent on their parenting skills and not on their age, wealth, what they're or how they look.
Sylvia