First time mum needing HELP!!!

[choccybickie]

Hi this is my first pregnancy. It was unplanned and took me by surprise and i'm wondering if its normal to worry about absolutely everything?! I havent had an appointment with my midwife yet as i'm only just 10 weeks and everything I read seems to have me convinced that i will have a missed miscarriage, i'm even dreaming that when i go for a scan there will be no heartbeat! I have had a lot of nausea and dizzyness but that seems to have calmed down? What does this mean?? Any advice??

Hi Choccybickie - don't worry, you are totally normal! I did plan my pregnancy but lived in fear of MC or abnormalitites...you name it, I worried about it. But I am mum to a beautiful 4 month old baby girl who is 100% healthy!

Good luck babes!

hi! I know how you feel about worrying - my pg was planned but I havent stopped worrying since i saw the line on the stick - and still 15 weeks to go till b-day and even once my lo arrives, I'm sure i'll still worry about everything. mumsnet has been great with lots of people happy to reassure on little things - i'm not sure i would have got this far in one piece without it.

you are normal to be anxious but good luck x

You won't stop worrying for years!

Soupdragons right, this is only the start of the worrying.
When's your scan?

I'm sure it'll be fine.

Got my scan tomorrow so fingers crossed! Thanks so much for reassuring me! I'l be a wreck until its scan time!!! xx

Choccy, after teh scan you will find another reason to worry about your little one. And then when he/ she gets here all safe and sound you will worry if you are feeding them right, and then you'll worry that your routine is ok and then you'll worry about lack of sleep..

My baby is 16 weeks and I still creep into her nursery and check she is breathing several times!! She sleeps through for about 10 to 12 hours a night but I still feel the need to check on her!

DONT WORRY!
But we have to face the facts, sometimes things dont go to plan, its just another barrier to cross and is usually overcome with time.
I was really worried, even ended up with an emergency caesarean, an early baby in special care, post nantal depression and post traumatic stress sindrome.
But like i say its all overcome with time, like I have overcome all exept the post traumatic stress. Well, when my daughter was 18 weeks old I fell pregnant again, im due in nov and couldnt be happier. Ive overcome it all like im sure you will IF anything went wrong.
With first babies ive found mums and midwives flood you with information and you dont know what to listen to and what not. I was really into reading books an deverything with my first and expected a certain labour and stuff but it doesnt always happen so this time i am just taking things easy (like you should) and accepting that if anything is going to happen i cant stop it..... there ya go ive finished blabbing on!

Yepp I worried a lot too, but what I realised like with many things (though none as important as your little one inside) that all you can do is minimise the risks in life - make informed choices and at times learn to trust your own feelings etc.

All the best take care.

my son is 3 aND i still check he is breathing and ok at least a couple of times before i go to sleep.