I have CFS/ME. Looking back, I believe I have had this from age 14, but was not finally diagnosed until between having DD2 and DD3, around age 38! I am lucky to be generally pretty well, though with periods where it flares up and wipes me out. I think this is why it took so long to get a diagnosis - quite often by the time I got referred to a specialist, it would have settled down again. When I first had a flare up, it was still a condition people laughed at and many didn't believe was real(!).
When pg, I found it difficult to tell what were pg symptoms and what was CFS, as others have mentioned, they are similar. After the 1st trimester, generally I felt better when pg.
DD3 is 10 months, DD1 has started school this year, and if I'm honest, I feel I'm starting to struggle a bit the last couple of months. By the end of the week, I often feel quite unwell and I have had to spend a few weekends largely in bed, which I know is not great. I have found the symptoms more constant since having children, because life is so much more tiring anyway and you can't often rest when you want to, have reliably uninterrupted sleep, get away from the children to exercise etc. I have got a 5 yo, 3 yo and 10 mo, DH works away some of the week, and we have no family to help out locally, so it is pretty full on. That was my choice, so I can't complain (well, I do sometimes!). I need to make some changes (building up exercise, eating properly) because I'm not taking the care I should, but it is really difficult to juggle everything I need to do each week! Most people don't know I have CFS, just a couple of close friends, the HV and childminder, DH and my parents.
The mws and doctors never mentioned it when I was pg, though it was in my notes, and was partly why I was given a private room in hospital. All three of my DDs were delivered by CS (2 x EMCS and 1 x ELCS) and the recovery was not too bad. I delegated everything except feeding the baby and my own personal hygiene for the first few days! Do ask for a private room in hospital if you think it would help and you have to stay in, as I found it easier to rest than on a ward due to less coming and going by staff, patients and visitors.
I'm glad I made the choices I have, and I wish everyone well in their pgs, and with their babies when they arrive. Sorry for crashing the thread, as I'm not pg
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